Primitive methods gipnozopodobnoy ...

The deep stage of hypnosis may well be used for analgesia during dental procedures. For example, in Austria, even there is an association of dentists that use hypnosis for anesthesia. - Not bad for a hypnosis for health? E.Sh. This question can be asked with respect to any treatment - whether it be surgery, antibiotic therapy, vaccine therapy, etc. The whole point is who and to what end uses of hypnosis. To use hypnosis for the benefit of the patient and to avoid complications, the physician must be experienced diagnostician in various fields of medicine. Referring to a doctor who offers treatment hypnosis, do not hesitate to find out his qualifications, make sure that you have come to an experienced technician. Adverse effects of hypnosis usually arise in the delusional symptoms, and delusions of persecution (that happens in schizophrenia), some forms of psychopathology (especially from a moral and social degradation), severe epilepsy. The therapist must be careful with the development with the so-called "gipnomanii", ie a hysterical need for more and more new sessions of hypnosis. - What is catalepsy, what is the nature of this phenomenon? E.Sh. Catalepsy - a sharp change in tone of muscles in the deep hypnosis in the form of waxy flexibility, or in excess of hardness. This is done in the third stage of hypnosis, which in medical practice is not used because of possible negative consequences. Somnambulism, catalepsy show "hypnotists" on stage, as a stunt, but as far as this show is ethical, a separate issue. - What percentage of people susceptible to hypnosis? What type of person more quickly and easily falls into a hypnotic state? E.Sh. Almost every physically and mentally healthy person, if he is confident in the safety and usefulness of hypnosis, can be introduced into this state. Of course, if the person demonstrates skepticism, or check yourself mentally keeps saying "no sleep, no sleep, then he is not asleep. - Can you hypnotize a person against his will? Can a person get out of self-hypnotic sleep? E.Sh. A small percentage of psychologically weak people (3-5%) with increased suggestibility may be against their will for some time, not so mesmerized by how "shocked, confused, lack of critical appraisal and assessment of the situation (for example, strong fear, sudden shock under influence of alcohol, etc.). Primitive methods gipnozopodobnoy surprise, terror, unceremoniously enjoy all sorts of fortune-tellers, gypsies and con artists, lure of money and valuables. In terms of what the doctor to call a long and deep hypnosis (for medicinal purposes), even skeptical, they are great. It's all about the ability to doctor and his arsenal of techniques. And if the doctor for some reason did not bring a patient out of hypnosis, it is after some time yourself out, just like waking up after the usual bedtime.

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There are even methods of teaching in a dream ...

There is a tactile hypnosis, when a doctor during a trance touches the patient. currently widely used Erickson's hypnosis, in which the method of feedback, ie when the doctor-patient relationship is a dialogue. Some specialists use a gradual or immediate hypnotization contrary. In some cases, apply farmakogipnoz when the patient is given a sedative. - What is hypnosis different from the natural sleep? Can I use a natural sleep as hypnosis for therapeutic purposes? E.Sh. Natural sleep - the result of a genetically determined specific process in the brain, giving him an opportunity in the daily biorhythms (night-day) for 7-9 hours to suspend its active wakefulness, rest, dive into the original state of inhibition. At this time, despite the visible, external unconsciousness, brain, usually works, but in a different form than during the day. Sleep, circadian biorhythms obey, animals, birds, insects and even plants. In humans during natural sleep, the brain is able to perceive different kinds of information. Think of light sleep nursing mother, waking at the slightest perturbation of the infant. There are even methods of teaching during sleep (eg, language). Some of psychophysiology and therapists suggest the possibility to carry out even therapeutic suggestion in the sleeper. Hypnotic sleep is caused by using special techniques, manipulations, its duration and depth are created from the outside, it can be called at any time of day. Suggestibility in hypnosis is much higher than normal sleep. Self-regulating processes proceed differently. This particular condition, and is used by doctors for treatment, and "hypnotists" to demonstrate his power over man. - When conventional medicine uses hypnosis for therapeutic purposes? E.Sh. Many will be surprised, but with the help of hypnosis (better if it is combined with medication, refleksoterapevticheskimi, physiotherapy and other treatments) can successfully contend not only with many neuro-psychiatric diseases, and diseases of internal organs. This is especially true of neurohumoral disorders and psychosomatic regulation. in Europe, the USA, Japan, this therapeutic approach effectively works at 60 - 70% of cardiovascular, gastrointestinal, bronchopulmonary, endocrine, skin and other diseases. Traditionally, psychopathy has a good effect on diseases, which are based on psychological strain, stress, internal emotional conflicts. Also, it can be a pain in the joints, spine, gastrointestinal ulcers, colitis, heart arrhythmia, allergy, atopic dermatitis, diabetes, thyroid dysfunction. Therapeutic hypnosis removes the underlying subconscious "complexes", activates the body's defenses, mobilizes its internal self-regulatory provisions. It is important not to lose time to functional disorders did not escalate into organic. The main feature of modern hypnosis is it going beyond psychiatry and its introduction into general medicine. - Can be used hypnosis in dental practice? If so, why not apply? E.Sh.

Frequently used auditory hypnosis ...

How did the psychiatrist treats? Taktikalecheniya, of course, depends on the type of pathology and state patsienta.Esli it is aggressive, dangerous to themselves or others, naznachayutsyalekarstvennye drugs and treatments. Subsequently, at etaperemissii, widely used methods of psychotherapy and psychological correction. Anytime, from case to be afraid or ashamed of the treatment to that doctor is not needed. Where can I find a qualified psychologist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist? Firstly, you can contact the district hospital, while boleesereznyh problems - to a mental hospital for mestuzhitelstva. A number of problems not related to alcoholism and drug addiction can be resolved by contacting our center. Another way - this treatment in private medical institutions. Izostavshihsya two professions in our country the right to privacy praktikuimeyut only psychotherapists. Such a physician must bytdiplom on vocational education, certificate Министерстваздравоохранения for the right to medical services, and takzhespetsialnaya license to conduct private practice.

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Secrets of hypnosis.

Questions answered by RANS, MD, a physician-therapist medical-psychological center of Personality Evgeny Shaposhnikov. - What is Hypnosis from the viewpoint of conventional medicine? E.Sh. Hypnosis - is a kind of artificially induced snopodobnoe state with a different depth of dormancy. Nature of the processes in the brain (psycho-physiological, biochemical, cell-molekulchrnyh) in hypnotic state is still not fully disclosed. State of hypnosis can be adjusted by a specialist engaged in conversation, both on stage and duration. There are three stages. The first stage - a simple neyroemotsionalnoe and muscle relaxation. The second stage of a drowsy state, when the patient sees only what it says doctor. The third stage is a deep trance, or so-called state of somnambulism. Somnambulism subject a little more than 5% of people, most of the same hypnosis can reach only the second stage - a nap. With this particular dream, the patient even though disabled, but is active as a person, his brain is working hard. And if the suggestion is in conflict with his moral principles, ethical norms - he wakes up. - How to enter into a hypnotic state? E.Sh. Now there are many hypnotic techniques. In the classical, the policy hypnosis use visual and auditory inputs in brain activity. When the visual hypnosis can be used a brilliant ball, to which the patient long stare, and finally is beginning to fall into a drowsy state. Frequently used auditory hypnosis, the use of "soothing music, rhythmic tapping metronome, monotonous monologue doctor pronouncing medical" units "," moods ". Can be used a combination of both. In recent years, hypnotic techniques in foreign clinics has become very complex, even sophisticated. I have proposed a method for the simultaneous use of hypnosis and acupuncture (acupuncture hypnosis).

The first called you an expert ...

What experts will help you cope with them? Says MD, a psychiatrist vyssheykategorii, Senior Researcher Research Center psihicheskogozdorovya Medical Sciences in Moscow, Igor V. Oleychik. There are many medical specialties with the prefix "psycho": psychoneurology, psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists. The first called you an expert - neuropsychiatrist - usually zanimaetsyadetskim health. This is not a profession but a post which mozhetzanimat as a neurologist and psychiatrist. The doctor called pomogatdetyam and adolescents who are faced with various mental ipsihologicheskimi problems. Psychologist - a specialist bezmeditsinskogo education, usually a graduate of psychological fakultetkakogo any university. The scope of its activities depends on the specialization. Thus, the clinical pathopsychology explores various lichnostnyhharakteristik - thinking, memory, emotions, intellect. These svedeniyamogut help psychiatrist in the formulation and refinement of the diagnosis. Neyropsihologvyyasnyaet whether there is something organic, local violations vrazlichnyh regions of the brain the patient, what is their nature. Etispetsialisty usually participate in the work of neurosurgeons, neurologists, oncologists, gerontopsychology. Child psychologist and psychologist-pedagogpomogayut children and adolescents cope with the various problems encountered in the process of schooling. Psychiatrist and psychotherapist - is doctors who are treating patients. What are the differences between a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist? Psychotherapist, as a rule, is engaged in border disease. Etoneglubokie depression, seasonal mood disorder, sotsialnayafobiya, psychopathy. In its work, the doctor uses metodypsihoterapii, that is, the impact on the psyche without the aid of drugs. A prineobhodimosti he may designate, and medication. Psihiatrspetsializiruetsya in the treatment of acute arisen, it is difficult current ilihronicheskoy pathology. He is addressed when a simptomovshizofrenii, manic-depressive psychosis, severe variantovepilepsii, with postpartum psychosis, various phobias, manic-depressive states, severe obsessions, stoykihnarusheniyah sleep. It can also help with stuttering, mental retardation, speech disorders and academic maladjustment. Psychiatrist narkologzanimaetsya treatment of alcoholism, substance abuse. Sferadeyatelnosti this specialist is wide enough, as they krugprimenyaemyh methods. By the way, about the methods. At the mention opsihiatricheskom treatment immediately reminded of the history of electric shock, injections of medications, paralyzing consciousness. Indeed, odeyatelnosti psychiatrists, there are many many different myths. Nasamom really the same as lobotomy, that is, electroconvulsive therapy, uzhedavno banned in our country. Worldwide, it is used postrogim, "life" readings, when the patient's life ugrozhaetneposredstvennaya danger. In addition, we now have drugs tselymarsenalom latest generation of fast normalizuyuschihsostoyanie patients with minimum side effects.

In such cases, let reception ...

Do not become a "grounding". You should not be the last link in the information channel. Talk about what they saw and heard. It does not become a "repeater". Follow up story to express feelings and opinions. If the information you transmit to others, no interest, think about it, is it really needed it to you. 5. Establish priorities. Normal sequence of importance - I do, then - my family and people close to me. Once you become clear value of information for you personally and for your immediate environment, we can not with such a severe emotional involvement to decide what it means for the country and the planet as a whole. 6. Calculate the forces. Should not be distressed because of what you can not change at all desire. If the objective you can not to anything to influence, but it bothers you, speak out or let out the feelings in prayer. 7. Keep track of the changes in myself. Notice how changing your status. Sometimes, in order to prevent disruption or panic reaction, it is enough to say: "Now I feel irritated" or "Now I'm afraid." Before you act, look at what caused your stress. Put between your mood and your actions barrier of comprehension. Maintain the consequences of your reactions. The first motivation is not always the correct one. 8. Learn to say to myself: "Stop." This applies not only to act, but also to the thoughts and feelings. The English have a wonderful saying, "Stop and smell roses." Any attempt to oppose the chagrin of pleasant memories. In the world there are many good things, and when the clouds are gathering, you can try the principle of Scarlett O'Hara. When she was surrounded worries, she said: "This is what I think about it tomorrow." 9. He caught himself on the willingness of fear or sadness, ask yourself whether or not to indulge in despondency. Is it really stupid fox in the fable, who could not reach the grapes, do not let yourself become frustrated, and found a way that supports her self-worth, and told myself to think that he has not quite sung? 10. "Every thing that you do, there is one-eighth of the unknown, and to maintain its internal ordering of, if not going to happen to fulfill the case, is seven-eighths" - so wrote the ancient Christian ascetic Abba Dorofei. Listen to the wisdom, proven for centuries. Would work well the body is not useful to us for more important things to and achievements in the future? By practicing these rules, you will find that the stress of the opponent and the oppressor becomes your ally, and even an assistant. "TAME" Stress is a great resource of energy. Boldly to harness it to the cart of your destiny. But life is life, and sometimes there are situations when it is necessary to concentrate the maximum, to gather his thoughts to make the right decision before an important business meeting or a meeting, and you are nervous, angry and realize that it can stop you at a crucial moment. In such cases, we assume reception of sedatives to help a particular point in life.

"Psycho" treats emotions

Osenyumy most susceptible to various stresses and problems associated spsihicheskim health.

It is better to remember the wise biblical ...

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Stop the stress!

At the very concept of "stress" is nothing negative. This is nothing more than the state of mobilization of the organism, "willingness to number one all the organs and systems. The negative consequences are possible only when this condition becomes chronic or is incorrect discharge. Our time is characterized by an unusually heavy flow of information. Scientists estimate that the day of urban residents receive the same information as the farmer of the last century received a lifetime. And each informational message causes a reaction of the organism. So, to cope with stress, you need to properly tune your body. The following are general principles of "setting". 1. Manage the flow of information. Discard the child's motto "I want to know everything." It is better to remember the wise biblical "Many knowledge of many sorrows." Including the TV or opening a newspaper, ask yourself: "What am I here for?" Do not bite off more than you can chew. 2. Having made a decision, think about the consequences. Ask yourself this question: "How to change my life if I knew a fresh political news or the results of a football match?" Try to imagine the reaction that is possible after receiving the information (joy, grief, anxiety, worry, etc.). 3. Frequently engage in dialogue with itself. Receiving the information, think about what it means to you personally, how it changed your life. Whether to act or the time to wait. Strive for sanity - let you become clear on how best to behave in this situation, in other words - to which you answer calls fate. A prominent American psychologist and priest Alexander van Kaam says: "Thinking is not only about what you want out of life but also about what life wants from you." 4.

Causes of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome ...

However, most of these cases were attributed to other medical or psychological problems. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, chronic fatigue is causing serious concern four of the 1000 Americans. This violation occurs in all sexes, races and ethnic groups. According to a large 1999 study in the U.S., the highest incidence of CFS was found among women in general, particularly among women of African and Spanish descent, and with lower levels of education and professional status. Some studies indicate that women with gynecological problems, such as menstrual irregularities, may have a higher risk than others. It seems there is no difference in severity of symptoms between men and women who already have CFS. In one study of nurses found that those who worked in worse conditions and subjected to threats of accidents, had a higher risk for signs of CFS. Chronic fatigue the most frequently observed at the age of 40-50 years. This condition is also less common in people aged under 30 years than after 60. However, children and adolescents may also have symptoms of CFS. Most research indicates that girls often develop symptoms of the disease than boys, although the incidence is about the same.

Causes of chronic fatigue syndrome to the reasons for chronic fatigue syndrome there are many theories. Many doctors are skeptical that the CFS - the actual disease. Many believe that is a component of psychological disorder or a sign of other problems such as anemia or high blood pressure. Indeed, to date no primary reasons that could explain all cases of CFS, was found. Many experts believe that this state evolves from a combination of reasons, which may include genetic factors, impaired brain function, immune system hyperreactivity and the impact of viruses or other infectious agents. Personality and psychological factors do not seem to be the direct cause of CFS, but may increase a person's susceptibility to the syndrome after a mental or physical stress.

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On the 19 th century, the term "neurasthenia" ...

So either the man quickly confesses all to his wife, or does everything that she is aware, mocked, punished and allowed to return home. In most cases, men's infidelity - the result of combining two or more of the types. And you've probably already realized that along with the purely sexual zamorochki of treason has many "faces". All this theory is probably needed only to those women who have the courage not to drive immediately changed the man, and then long feeling sorry for myself, and try to understand something, and possibly fix it. Yelena Yegorova, a psychologist Source: www.beautytime.ru

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Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

The syndrome of chronic Fatigue (CFS), in Europe, also called mialgicheskim encephalomyelitis (myalgic encephalomyelitis), is not a new disease. On the 19 th century, the term "neurasthenia" or "nervous exhaustion", applied to the signs of illness similar to CFS. In the 30 - 50 years of outbreaks, with a characteristic prolonged fatigue were reported in the U.S. and in many other countries around the world.

Unexplained chronic fatigue lasting for six months or more, violates the ordinary life of the patient and has no identifiable medical or psychological problems, allowing to explain this condition. Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) can be determined by the following criteria (4 th of the following symptoms must be present for more than six months): - short-term memory loss or a severe inability to concentrate, affecting work, training or other actions - sore throat - an increase of peripheral lymph nodes (eg, neck or armpits) - muscle pain - pain in the joints without redness or swollen joints - intensive periodic headaches - sleep does not rest - after all the efforts, fatigue lasts longer than one day.

Tired cause for concern, if: sleep or rest does not reduce fatigue fatigue - not the result of excessive work or exercise fatigue significantly violates the functional abilities of the person at home, at work and in society

Many patients report fatigue after the flu -like illness (one study 20% of patients reported chronic fatigue from the flu). Often, this condition appears as a viral upper respiratory infection, with a combination of fever, headache, muscle aches, sore throat, otitis media, nasal discharge, coughing, diarrhea and fatigue. Typically, the initial disease was not more serious than a cold or the flu. Many patients have symptoms of a recurring flu-like illness with a duration of an attack from several hours to several weeks. In some cases, under the guise of CFS are hiding other physical illnesses requiring skilled care.

Who is affected by chronic fatigue syndrome? In studies of large groups of 15 to 27% of people complained about the prolonged fatigue.

Otherwise, the whole structure loses its meaning.

Very often one of the styles of family interaction is the so-called style of "triangle". Mother and father or mother and grandmother are unspoken struggle for love, attention, obedience to his son. They compete with each other in the amount of love and adoration of the child. A child is a child becomes accustomed myself to feel the top of the triangle, for the love that fight the other side. Style of adult behavior that we have a couple of decades - to search for habitual state of bliss, when for you, for your love of two women fighting. The wife and mistress, for example. As you know, in this case, the goal of treason is not sex, not love, but something else. Moving between the angles of the triangle such a man never makes a decisive choice in favor of one party or another. And his wife certainly be one way or another, be aware of the fact that her husband is fighting someone else. Otherwise, the whole structure loses its meaning. If the family triangle, the boy was not the top corner and fighting for the attention of the parties (a situation such as when a family of several children), it grows up, it creates a slightly different "triangle". Such a man accustomed to the rivalry in love, first of all pleasures for him - take away a woman from someone else. In this case, the purpose of his game - not a woman and a man with whom he competes subconsciously, it need not have another woman, and beat another man. Very often the mother is so very attached to her son that he had his whole life is psychologically connected to her. Very common and familiar to many situations, generating so-called "momma's boy. Most women believe that that's just this type of men's infidelity is simply not capable, they say, they are born henpecked. Alas, it is not. And then there are two versions of events. In his wife's sissy looking for a same "mama", that is a devoted, caring wife and mother of his children, a kind of "mother-nurse." He genuinely loves and appreciates his wife, he is without it, literally, as without hands, but ... he soon ceases to see her sexual partner, no longer feel attracted to her as a woman. The identification of his wife with his mother so completely that arises in the soul of man unconscious protest against "incest". It is clear that for sex (he is normal in all respects a man) sissy begins to look for another woman. In doing so he is not going to leave his wife, he continues her truly and deeply love, and sometimes even warns about his mistress. The second scenario occurs when the "sissy", albeit belatedly, beginning to feel the natural need to separate from the "mother-wife, as do all normal adolescents, only a little at a younger age. Then the "march to the left" means nothing, as a natural teenage protest, a revolt against the influence of the "mammy". It's funny that the insurgency is overgrown teenager behaves exactly like a bad boy who really really want to go back under the reliable "Mama" barrels.

This is becoming a familiar style ...

Usually, such a need in the purely psychological compensation appears after a major life failure, strong impact on self-esteem men. About the third. Is typical for men with a good sense, romantic kind. They firmly believe in the myth of two halves, which must meet and then be happy. All of his failures in his personal life and constant quest, they explain that they simply unlucky in love, they still have not found the one single. It is interesting that while they consider themselves Monogamous, just the same one only, has not yet met. Fourth occasion. There is a type of men "Daffodils" was extremely conceited, believing in its exclusivity, being different. These people need constant admiration, as we have in the daily diet, they were accustomed to take what they want, just because they are "special". Good Woman? "No question, it will be mine!". By the way, "Daffodils" cools to each new passion, as only a "hobby" becomes accessible and commonplace. Occasional fifth. Many members of the male sincerely believe that sex on the side - not cheating at all, but just kind of behavior inherent in any "real man", such as smoking or alcohol. And it is very important that all the friends saw each new passion, rate it, perhaps, would envy. Very many men lead to a change in their individual psychological problems triggered by an early age by their parents, parenting style, family relations. And with this group of men is not so simple. You can, of course, accustomed to stigmatize their definitions of "male", "dog", etc., but it will be obvious simplification of the problem. Let's try to tell a little about these causes of male infidelity. It turns out that another type of men inclined to change that - misogynists, relating to all women like second-class beings. Such a deep, unconscious hatred of all women is caused, as a rule, emotional traumas of childhood. Conquest of each new woman, a betrayal to his wife - a way of aggression, the opportunity to strike while the two women. Just do not think this is some kind of villains, such an attitude toward all beings feminine sits deep in the subconscious. Cause of distant childhood long forgotten, but the style of behavior was, and was the only familiar. If the mother loved her son, giving him and only him all my love, denying themselves all over, including in the device's own personal happiness (as you know, we are talking about single mothers), the son begins to perceive itself as a universal gift as God's gift to all women, without exception, occurring in its path. This is becoming a familiar style of his association with the opposite sex. But that dose of adoration, to which he was accustomed, and which can only give only the mother, the man simply can not find one, albeit a very loving his woman, wife, friend. Account the quality of recruit. Only in this version, a man nearly enough of the love and attention, to which he was accustomed to since childhood.

Any restorative procedure ...

First of all, your life, and it you have one. Come and play sports, meet with a friend, you have not seen a hundred years. Begin to take care of themselves. Any restorative procedures - a contrast shower, swimming, running - should also be held in line with self-love. A sports professionally should be mandatory, because the motion of the body itself begins to make matter - anti-depressants. Well, the best prevention of such states is healthy sadness about those things that already happened. Olga Smirnova

Why does a man change?

There are several "excuses" of male adultery, most commonplaces, which knows and has a lot to porasskazat any woman, and men too. For example: "the marriage began to seem somewhat boring, monotonous, every day is similar to the following. Closeness was boring duty, and in his wife's eyes I still do not see any enthusiasm ... ". Or another cause of treason, has already become a textbook: the husband left because enticed a young and beautiful rival. Somehow, many women are convinced to leave only Pozar "to something more attractive." Statistics show the opposite: most men go to the one who looks inferior to his wife. Apparently, it's not in appearance, but the fact that another man saw a man and his wife - his customary ownership. Another "standard" cause treachery occurs during a man's life when there is something in the ".. the beard and the devil - in edgewise, that is, after forty years of age. Age in itself difficult, crisis, one can say for many reasons, including deeply personal, and now with the coming of old age it's time to fight. During this period, betrayal - a sort of protest against the aging, trying to prove to himself and others that "I have nothing to himself, something to fit." Well everyone knows how to embark in all serious, even try to get away from the family, is not it? However, there are quite a few reasons for high treason, of which the average betrayed wife has no idea. Of course the fact of treason - a thing in itself rather unpleasant and hurtful, and numerous Madam Broshkina can rightly argue: "But what have I to do some sort of reason! Left after all! Because - male, that's all! ". But if you stop feeling sorry for myself, and curse "vile apostate" and try to look at the situation constructively, then the knowledge of the fine mechanisms, causes, pushing our beloved husband to commit adultery, do not be over. At least to give practical advice girlfriend, who came to you complain to the vest. So, excuse the first. According to the strict and incorruptible science - statistics, 40% of men change ... out of revenge. For that, you ask? Many reasons: revenge for treason (real or imaginary) wife for her bad character (it conflicts, growls, does not appreciate her husband, humiliates him, demanding money, etc.), because in the family to a man inattentive, not interested in his cases, mood. Concerning the second. The new novel is needed in order to enhance self-esteem a man in his own eyes and in the eyes of others.

Try for a few days "fall into a coma."

He feels close to her lack of confidence, a certain inferiority of their presence, uselessness, incompetence. That certainly does not strengthen family relationships. - And how to handle this? Maybe go? - Not the fact that this will help. You may grieve the same way and change the situation. Travel will be beneficial only if you'll find a solution to your problem. Must have the courage and boldness and see what's going on with your life. But to do this preferably with the help of a psychologist, not to get caught up in this state even deeper. Try for a few days "fall into a coma." Reinforce your depression. Let your loved one, about anything without asking, and make love to you, as a good nurse. Three days of absolute inaction - both physical and mental - is particularly helpful when depression is superimposed on fatigue. But that is uniquely bad in this situation, so it is to wear a mask. You have to portray people other emotions, to spend the energy, and depression in the meantime only intensified. If possible, limit the communication of the work to take home. Go to dinner alone, and not in the company of colleagues. And takes off his mask in the moments when you have no one sees. How to cope with grief is necessary to realize the cause, try to find out what's going on with you and your life. The whole world is crumbling around, because you left a favorite? Maybe you are tormented by itself alone. And is not that left little importance in general for your life man. You may have idealized it too, only not to be left alone. And this fact need to take and survive, rather than drive out of consciousness. Tosca is always a specific reason. They just have to see, and do not blame the whole world the injustice to himself. And then the hopelessness appears clearance. Take responsibility for sebya.Kazhdy of us has the ability to be happy. Because destiny - it's actually not what happens to you. Destiny - it is a choice, our choice. We choose the life that lead. Now suppose that, having married, you are part of the responsibility for himself, his mood and gave the man. And if something is wrong, then he is guilty, and you fall into a depression you. But is it only the husband should be responsible for you to be happy? Return this part of the responsibility and do something good for yourself. Such emotional independence helps to solve many problems of family life. . Gain control over the situation. Bouts of depression can rob us of confidence. Take control of your feelings until you get the ease of gesture, the ease in the body. Try to see the good even in bad. Love sebya.Depressivnuyu woman is hard to get something done. It has to be negotiated. Tell me: my dear, I love you so much. Let's us now, get up, umoemsya and remove in the closet. We will do everything to you today was good. And yourself praise. And then, in spite of that, we begin to engage each other. Regardless of what mood my husband came, and what is now a relationship with him.

After all, it is generally the host country.

If she dreams only of the fact that all left her alone. When you do not want to work, everything goes wrong and irresistibly drawn to the sweet - and that's when you should think about what could cause such a state. Unlike men, we are more prone to depressive disorders. And usually, they occur against a background of general dissatisfaction with life. - Why? - Because women often depends on the mood of the people around her, family. She seemed to shift the responsibility for their own fate and fortune on the shoulders of men, emotionally dependent on him. Weaker sex characterized as unreasonable expectations, excessive demands on the partner, pridavanie surplus value detail. You say: "How can I be happy when I have so many problems!" - And step on the path that leads directly into the mire of depression and despondency. - How to distinguish depression from simple fatigue? - Reduce the load. Take time off from work, children to send to my grandmother, two or three days does not work out the economy - is simply rest. And still you feel sadness, oppression and suppression? So everything is much more serious. Unless it's a reaction to stress. After all, there are situations when sedation and rest period is needed in order to adapt to new conditions and find a solution to get used to the fact that there is. When a woman knows for what reason she misses, there is a particular problem, it is - a healthy longing, normal mourning, part of our lives. An unhealthy state begins where the woman sees no reason his anguish, avoid awareness of what has happened, does not want to know why she was depressed. And in this case, depression is becoming malignant. Neurosis - an attempt to avoid legitimate suffering, - said a famous philosopher and thinker, Jung. Depression - an escape from problems. - And if these problems occur because people close to just throw it your negative emotions? - The woman often becomes a convenient "receiver" of negative information to her husband and children. After all, it is generally the host country. In order not to be thoroughly imbued with this flow of negative energy, you should be able to keep its borders, restore them if they are violated. No woman should live only for the interests of a spouse, even the most beloved. It is necessary to protect its spiritual territory and not to tolerate anything offensive in his address. - Harmful if melancholy? - If it's unhealthy, it certainly - yes. Eventually it will become more frequent attacks and remission periods become shorter. Quality of life significantly worse. You with great difficulty will be given to even the simplest of solutions - what to do now is where to start the day. Come confusion, emotional and mental weakness. If such condition is not treated, it can occur and deterioration in health. The impossibility of changing anything in the outside world, women will hate yourself, no longer apply to doctors. Not for nothing after all noticed that one of the indirect signs of depression are untreated teeth. Difficult with such a woman and her relatives, especially her husband.

Divorce if her husband? Take the ...

You have come to the gynecologist to complain about violations of the cycle, and it, rolling his eyes to the ceiling, bored voice says: "And as for the approach of menopause not you think?" If you can not take care of the balance in life seven years ago, you're afraid of Fault old age. You put on a mini-skirt that literally screams: "Look, I'm not old! I even though much! "Women want to change the former partner of a young lover. Sometimes the interest itself is falling, the world grows dim and depression begins. Astrologers say: Saturn at the end of the sixth seven years is not pushing us on the right path and punishes recklessness, he asks us a question: "Are you ready to put up with old age?" Make time work for yourself you are going through adolescence crisis was just the second you leave from childhood, and with youth and next to no caring parents to support you. Now is the time to act and to change ourselves and life. Learn to play piano, buy a good camera and shoot sunsets, sought a promotion. You can have a baby. Divorce if her husband? Wisdom and tolerance, he too is not easy. And if you're both safely overcome the barrier fortieth birthday, you expect a new rise of the senses. No husband find your lover. You must open the door to a new living space, where it will dwell all subsequent years, not only the mother and not just a pretty woman, but wise and mature person. 49 years: "I am now another" If you do not have time to change, then you'll get a heavy and painful menopause, depression, uncontrolled outbursts of aggression and tides. Lessons from the fate of the transition to 50-th anniversary of severe adult children live their lives, look after their grandchildren do not ask, and the boards do not need, at work everywhere, young and active, the disease crippled, and it seems to come only misery and loneliness. Make time work for yourself regretting the past, quite natural for a 50-year milestone feeling, do not be afraid of him. Your sadness do not dispel the flurry of activity, and enjoyment of life. Spoil yourself with all your available budget pleasures: let it be French perfumes and Italian shoes, the latest detective story Marina, a trip to Tallinn, Prague or in Cesis. Get rid of those female friends who say that only mad at your age go for Thai massage and throw money on the trip. Communicate with those who can understand and endorse the new facets of your personality. And you see that life is still exciting and interesting to be so always.

Why am I sad?

One of the four women at least once in your life is going through depression. If you started to worry sudden bouts of sadness, longing, then aside from all his work and immediately enjoy a search for causes. Psychologist says Moscow's Center for Psychological Counseling, "Framm" Elena Volkova. - When should pay serious attention to his spleen? - When she threatens to escalate into a depression. If a woman is very bad feeling in the morning, her mood improved only in the late afternoon, and then only briefly.

Make time work for yourself ...

A young woman with two children throwing good complaisant husband for another man, because it believes it needs love and she married her so and has not experienced. Six months later, she loses her job, two weeks later dies of a stroke his father. A few months later she parted ways with one another, and then caring for a severely diseased daughter. We can say that all of this chain of tragic coincidences. But as stated in Eastern wisdom, "any accident has a cause." You can not leave her husband, not to upset parents' divorce, not doing things you love, being in constant stress, thoughtless lovers, as a rule, bad husbands and fathers worthless, and our children depend on our mood, like flowers from the sun. If you do not learn the first cruel lesson will be followed by a second, third, and thou "mad" or, as psychologists say, a turbulent seven-year period devoted to correcting errors. Make time work for themselves in 28 years, it sometimes seems that life is somehow wrong and it needs to be change: getting pregnant without the consent of her husband, changing jobs, say true and beloved friend, that she bore. So do not do it. In the 28 years necessary to create and acquire rather than lose, no matter what it is about: about friends or marriage. Find someone with whom you could talk about everything and read the mountain of books on psychology and more think about heard and read. Otherwise, some imprudence will pull themselves a whole series of misfortunes. 35, 1941: "It's time to perfection, harmony and balance", but its beginning is difficult. Tom Cruise announced to his wife, Nicole Kidman, that he intends to divorce her on the day of her 35 th birthday. A month later she suffered a miscarriage and she permanently locked in his house, to understand how to live. And though Nicole finally left alone, but wonderfully prettier and won an Oscar. But my acquaintance Marina early Saturday morning, woke her husband and said that he met his first young love in his heart he has raced at all and now he wants to live alone and know what to do next. Marina worked only daughter and the house and with the departure of the spouse left without any means of subsistence. The husband promised to give money to the economy. But if they divorce? At that time to live? And then she reached the middle of life? Showed a severe blow to her: sweet, dull talk with you, you have no profession, but gained 20 kilos overweight, you're turning a blind eye to changes in the behavior of her husband and lived in a world of illusions. Marina took a job in a shop clerk and entered on the accounting courses. Her husband returned after six months she lost weight and started paying attention to something else other than raising children. Make time to work on cebya If you have in 35 years no children it is time to give birth. If there is no time to learn a profession. If you never knew how to drive a car to get right. The one who despised the kitchen should consider cooking. Housewives should think about working for a few hours a week. It is necessary to restore balance in life, otherwise all subsequent years you will spend on the pan, which will go down. 1942-48 years: "It is time of great change," Here they appeared those wrinkles that can not be overlooked, and nobody calls you "girl" even looking back.

And with twenty-one, you take ...

And you know ... I'm happy! And sincerely wish you the same thing.

Seven Years in a woman's life

Every seven years, counting from the moment of birth, our life changes radically. Astrologers explain this change influenced by a mysterious rock the planet Saturn. Psychologists have a natural development of personality. Choose which theory you like. All seven-year cycle ends with the "fateful years": 7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49 and so on. At seven and fourteen years to overcome the difficulties you help the parents. And with twenty-one, you take their own destiny under his personal control, and only depends on you how you will spend the next life cycle. The transition from one cycle to another slip quietly and painlessly few people can, but you can soften it, and lay a solid foundation for a successful next period of need. 21-27 years: "It is time to live their lives and do their job" At 21, you are no longer a teenager and an adult woman. Enough toss, choose to protest and demonstrate. Time of trial and error is over. In the twenty-one years, many girls are married, or decide to stay with a friend and apart from the family, or realize that until you want to think about the family. If you have not yet found their way in life, Saturn, you will push him mercilessly. Daughter of my friend during my studies at the University of recklessly walked with the boys and did nothing during his last year in a car accident, broke her leg, underwent two operations at the hospital took over the book, brilliantly defended his diploma and now works at an insurance company and is going to get married to a colleague. Australian singer Kylie Minogue in the twenty-one year experienced a whirlwind romance with a handsome man and drug addict Michael Hutchins, the singer of rock band INXS. Passion turned an ordinary pretty star of TV soap operas in a sexual siren, the turbulent emotions she sang very well. But then Michael got carried away a photo model Helena Christensen. Kylie could continue to live a love, try to keep him but made its choice in favor of a career. A few years later her ex-boyfriend killed himself, to pump a mixture of antidepressants and tranquilizers, and leaving another friend from their common polutoragodovalym child. And Kylie to thirty years has become a global celebrity. Make time work for himself in his 21 th birthday to think about what you really want, and do it. All of the following seven years of your life will depend on the make up your mind whether you do differently or again someone obey. Do not be afraid to make a wrong choice well you do something stupid, life on it is finished, you acquire experience that still will serve you in good stead. And if I do nothing, then everything in your life will come seven years later. 28 years-34 years: "Take what you want and pay for it," In 28 years you should know: for all consequences of own actions to be answered. Those who are dull of apprehension, Saturn presents a very harsh lesson.

Nevertheless, this rule is so ...

However, this rule is so firmly seated at the head of each free girl, which leads to such calls as the one that I led at the outset. Try to trace the origins of the ban. Remember when we were young and beautiful nonsense bear, mom told us that all men regardless of age or status need only that (at this point mom scary eyes bulge, and made a meaningful pause), so as soon as they get, the prospect of relations Woman becomes very hazy. However, I still can not grasp what to do with those that spoil the statistics, young men who still want to build a long relationship where sex plays an important, but it is not the main role. And what to do with the instinct of procreation, also called sexual attraction, which is not unique to the male half of humanity? These questions have no clear answer as there is no single answer to the question of whether to sleep with a man on a first date. In the end, nature has given us - women - the vaunted intuition, and here is precisely the moment comes to take her on all cylinders. Look into the eyes of a young man liked you, listen to his words and try to understand: he may, in principle, not set up anything more than a one-time connection and no matter whether there will be this relationship on a first date or third. Maybe between you slipped past the spark and this meeting could become, you never know in this great love? So what can wait and play some strange game? Surrender to the will of the feelings and emotions - is also a great happiness that you deserve. Well, that's exactly what happened. It does not matter whether the first date or third, you were together, had a lovely few hours in bed, and voila - you are at home. What should I do now? The first desire - call, write SMS, send an e-mail and, finally, just to shout to the world that you are happy. But you can not. There is a notorious ban on this same call. Do not call him first, show conspicuous indifference promarinuy. And now she sits by the phone, hypnotizing him with his eyes, not knowing that the other end of town sits at least experiencing a young man, who also suffers. And all because (I'll tell you a terrible secret) that they too have that stupid ban on the first call! On Love In nature there are no statistics to support or refute the feasibility of following the rules. I can not interview the hundreds of families, half of which I for one will say that they are together only because on the first date she slammed the door in front of her husband's nose. Also I do not know how many relationships have not happened because of the fact that one followed the rules, and the second took it for indifference. Sex - it's not just a physiological act, it is primarily an act of love. And when we talk about love, we must listen to the heart. And of course, a little head to think. Here, perhaps, two concrete rules that I follow in this life.

By calling first, you thus ...

  Mistress holding brooms in the house whisks up that did not go out of money. Take the money should be his right hand and left to give. In order to become rich, scattered pennies on the corners of the house with the words: "Let them arrive at my house." Large bills can not be stored or creased in dark corners. They should be periodically recalculated so that they breathed and ventilated. WHAT ELSE DO NOT RECOMMEND can not make something out of the house after sunset. Does not looks like trash from the table by hand - a lack of money. Himself cut - into poverty. Wash your apartment at night - the happiness of the wash house. Do not wash the floors, starting from the threshold. Before leaving the house, nothing can sew up, drop the keys and go back - the road will not be. Because the home defense is a threshold, then there is nothing to give or take through it. Do not pick on the floor found a button. During a party does not share glasses. Do not leave empty bottles on the table, and at night - the knives. Dress to wear inside out - to be broken, and backwards - to get acquainted. Kept in the house peacock feathers or a bunch of reeds - the collapse of the family.

S. KUZINA

Gotta ... without

Back in the deep childhood our mothers and grandmothers was hammered into our heads the tacit rules of conduct for Girls. They consisted of a solid "no": do not jump over fences - you're a girl, do not go with the boy walking alone - indecent and so on and so forth until adolescence to adulthood, and even longer. And still in the classroom, having received a crumpled scrap of paper with the words: "Let's be friends?" We are at a moment became queens of class and all the other girls looked at us with envy. And we kept these pieces before the end of the school that, despite the fact that the rose that the notorious sexual revolution long ago there was again faced with the tacit rules. Rule of Three is not a rule of "three no" came into our lives from the comedy of American manufacturing. Why there? Because the rules domostroevskih Russian upbringing of these young ladies, "not" was as much anymore. So, what can not be done. 1. Never take the initiative. 2. Never allow sex on a first date. 3. Do not call me first. Try to figure out where have these limitations, to understand the logic of their appearance and, of course, make sure that they "need." A very important point of any relationship - it is definitely the leading party. I personally do not believe in equal relationship: still a turn the other cheek - second kiss, one - the hunter, the other - the victim. This is normal, it is inherent in human nature. By calling first, you thus become the initiator of relationship, which imposes on you some responsibility and not be possible to relax with a good conscience say to himself: "Yes it hurts I want!". Where did the ban on sex on the first date, taking into account that the sexual revolution has long passed and secured the right of women not only choose a partner, but also independently to initiate a sexual relationship? Mystery.

Only recently found out where this sign.

And according to the Christian version, the belief in the fatality of this figure is explained by the Last Supper - Jesus' last meal with the twelve apostles: in a society of 13 people someone to die. RIGHT HAND - HAPPY Spit over your left shoulder so as not to "jinx" because it is behind the left shoulder we supposedly watches the invisible grinning devil. A guardian angel is on the right side. This superstition has confirmed science, which proved that the left hemisphere of the brain responsible for logical thinking, and therefore controls the right hand. Hence they were born and the "rules": do not give anybody anything with his left hand - to ill health, and if left palm itches - a loss, and right - for profit. Scattering salt, this offense was considered grave misfortune for the very simple reason. Before the advent of refrigerators in order to keep raw foods from spoiling their salted. Consequently, scattering salt meant that you did not prosolish their food stocks, find yourself without food and die. House-warming in a new, empty house at night let in a dog bed and put in place, and a headboard in the same direction, where he spent the night animal. Only recently found out where this sign. In some places on Earth have so-called geopathic zones, where the strengths are harmful to humans rays. We have them - unlike animals - do not feel it. "Fields" is to choose the dog that coincide with the positive "margins" of man. A cat sleeping in places where a person is a long time is dangerous. THAT says psychologist psychoanalysts of all time link to the human need to believe "at least in something." But many scientists see the signs and the positive side. French psychiatrist, Dr. Francois Laborde says that "prejudice is an individual sense of power over events and ability to control their visibility. It is kind of cheap and readily available, soothing." From the perspective of psychiatry, superstition allows us to reduce internal stress. Thus, it has a placebo effect, that is, imaginary drugs. In psychoanalysis, this course of action is called magical thinking: to feel better, it is enough to knock on unpainted wood, sit down "before the track or turn back, encountering a black cat. Then we will feel safer, not expecting trouble. COMMENT church father Artem (Moscow Patriarchate): - err grievously against the first commandment of God by those who cling to superstition: they are cast aside as the invention of demons. Vain superstition or faith - faith or groundless and unworthy of true Christians. The Holy Fathers are often warned against the will, when the most unimportant cases are derived omens of happy or unhappy circumstances in our lives. Money as a sneeze richness can not lend money you save up for a big purchase, or your dream come true. Do not give money on Monday - the week will cost, but chihnesh on Monday - a gift: how many times chihnesh, so many gifts.

I give myself too often thinking.

Sometimes I want to break things, beat the dishes. 6. I had such periods when I could not what to begin, quickly get down to work. It could go days, weeks or even months. 7. I interrupted and restless sleep. 8. My physical health is not worse than most of my friends. 9. I prefer to pass by my school friends or acquaintances whom I have not seen, if they do not talk to me first. 10. I'm a sociable person. 11. At times I insisted that others lose their patience. 12. Others seem to me happier than I am. 13. I believe that life is worth living. 14. Apparently, I am also able and clever, like most other people around me. 15. I do not care the risk of contracting any disease. 16. Criticism and comments are insulted and hurt me. 17. At times, I am convinced of his uselessness. 18. Sometimes I'm tempted to join with someone in a fight. 19. Most part, I fall asleep without worrying thoughts. 20. I can easily cry. 21. Sometimes when I'm embarrassed, I start to sweat. 22. I love the different games and entertainment. 23. I like to flirt. 24. I give myself too often thinking. 25. I have periods of anxiety, when I can not sit still for long in one place. 26. Sometimes for no reason, even when things are going it does not matter, I feel agitated, happy. 27. Very difficult for me to start any sort was a job. 28. I do not blame her, when deceived those who allow themselves to cheat. 29. At times I am full of energy. 30. I have periods of wanton gaiety. Count the number of affirmative answers ("+" sign) to the following questions: 3, 6, 7, 9, 12, 16, 17, 20, 24, 27. Then count how many questions from the rest - 1, 2, 4, 5, 8, 10, 11, 13, 14, 15, 18, 19, 21, 22, 23, 25, 26, 28, 29, 30 - you answered in the negative (sign «-»). Fold the first result with a second, get your scores on the questionnaire. Test Results If your score below 11 (for men) and less than 9 (for women) you're a person, not prone to unrest baseless and experiences. You are not locked in their failures and disappointments, and all thought that "life is a failure," are rather a consequence of a bad mood, not depression. If you scored over 13 points (for men) and more than 18 points (for women), you should beware of depressive states. Acute experience of failure, increased feelings of guilt, self-criticism, self-doubt - all this can lead to what a bad mood may one day develop into the disease.

To believe in omens good for nerves

"The superstitious man can not be entirely unhappy for the superstition is hope." Honore de Balzac. Whence came the fear of number 13? According to the Scandinavian version, which appeared even before the development of Christianity, the twelve gods happy quietly-peacefully trapeznichali in the palace of the god Odin, when suddenly came the 13th - one of Loki. It was he who started the quarrel, had been transferred into a fight, resulting in the death of beloved god Balder.