On the 19 th century, the term "neurasthenia" ...

So either the man quickly confesses all to his wife, or does everything that she is aware, mocked, punished and allowed to return home. In most cases, men's infidelity - the result of combining two or more of the types. And you've probably already realized that along with the purely sexual zamorochki of treason has many "faces". All this theory is probably needed only to those women who have the courage not to drive immediately changed the man, and then long feeling sorry for myself, and try to understand something, and possibly fix it. Yelena Yegorova, a psychologist Source: www.beautytime.ru

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Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

The syndrome of chronic Fatigue (CFS), in Europe, also called mialgicheskim encephalomyelitis (myalgic encephalomyelitis), is not a new disease. On the 19 th century, the term "neurasthenia" or "nervous exhaustion", applied to the signs of illness similar to CFS. In the 30 - 50 years of outbreaks, with a characteristic prolonged fatigue were reported in the U.S. and in many other countries around the world.

Unexplained chronic fatigue lasting for six months or more, violates the ordinary life of the patient and has no identifiable medical or psychological problems, allowing to explain this condition. Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) can be determined by the following criteria (4 th of the following symptoms must be present for more than six months): - short-term memory loss or a severe inability to concentrate, affecting work, training or other actions - sore throat - an increase of peripheral lymph nodes (eg, neck or armpits) - muscle pain - pain in the joints without redness or swollen joints - intensive periodic headaches - sleep does not rest - after all the efforts, fatigue lasts longer than one day.

Tired cause for concern, if: sleep or rest does not reduce fatigue fatigue - not the result of excessive work or exercise fatigue significantly violates the functional abilities of the person at home, at work and in society

Many patients report fatigue after the flu -like illness (one study 20% of patients reported chronic fatigue from the flu). Often, this condition appears as a viral upper respiratory infection, with a combination of fever, headache, muscle aches, sore throat, otitis media, nasal discharge, coughing, diarrhea and fatigue. Typically, the initial disease was not more serious than a cold or the flu. Many patients have symptoms of a recurring flu-like illness with a duration of an attack from several hours to several weeks. In some cases, under the guise of CFS are hiding other physical illnesses requiring skilled care.

Who is affected by chronic fatigue syndrome? In studies of large groups of 15 to 27% of people complained about the prolonged fatigue.

And he and the other levels of interpretation ...

They both have their own interpretation of levels of evidence (the application), and their limitations, and are used as complementary. When all the associations of the dreamer are collected, the analyst proceeds to interpret dreams. From that moment, art. If the association could raise a journeyman, the interpretation requires the Master. Will there be a successful interpretation depends largely on the experience and intuition of the analyst. The key in this process is, over the years produced, sensitivity to the unconscious contents and the ability to clothe them in words. When a psychoanalyst, has made for itself an interpretation, he asks himself the following, the important question - how to "communicate" the idea to the ears of the patient? Experienced analysts usually avoid polysyllabic, long sentences. Interpretation should be possible, brief and emotionally charged, and transfer are hidden (mental and emotional) experiences of the patient. In concluding, I note that the interpretation of dreams is not a mind game and entertainment for the fans. For this or that dream is real, sometimes suffering people, who tells his dreams, counting on the psychological care and support. Respond, to provide this assistance, it is the task of professionals from the psychotherapy, including the method of dream interpretation in their therapeutic arsenal. Counseling psychologist, therapist

Dromomaniya (fugue, vagobandazh): Dependence of pilgrims

Vladimir Kukk psychiatrist, psychologist, social activist web: http://www.DrKukk.com e-mail: dr.kukk @ inbox. ru Dromomaniya - vagrancy, the obsession with travel and running away from home. Vitaliy says: "Divorced father and mother lived where and how will, and we are brother was wound between them, the boarding school, the barracks of the military unit (where I was a student of the regiment), pioneer camps ... Then there were the naval crew's quarters, factory dormitories, communal father and finally he rents a room and an apartment ... "Vitaly was running away from where he lived. Running away from their parents, the boarding of pioneer camps, a military unit, where he was brought up. I went to ride to on Tovarnik, wandered and wandered the cities and villages throughout the Soviet Union, he was detained, caught, placed in reception centers and orphanages. From the age of 10-11 years was to leave home for a week or month and a half, and then wandered for six months or a year. With twelve years was registered in the nursery militia "for the unauthorized parent systematic journey through the country." Behavioral addiction - vagrancy, possession to run away from home for Vitali grew into a passion to travel. Now Vitaly Sundakov (my countryman, a native of Alma-Ata) is a professional traveler: A leader in organizing and conducting research, extreme and adventurous expeditions to remote regions of the world's first Russian professional traveler and researcher, who made a profession of a traveler in the inventory of the world trades. President, Foundation for Russian expeditions and trips founder of the first Soviet and Russian Schools survival President Transnational Association of Schools of Survival "VITALIS" Member of the Russian Geographic Society Member of the Russian Academy of problems of preservation of life Member of the International Centre for spiritual, moral and physical rebirth (France), World Citizen, Cavalier of the Constantine Order of St George's all-Russian author of children's programs (implemented by the Federation of Children in Russia constantly risking their lives, brought together a unique research materials, living in communities of primitive tribes, Dani, Asmat, Huichol, Yanomami, Guarani, Chimules, Lakandonesi has more than 20 nationalities and cultural identities Peace in the territories of Oceania, South-East Asia, Latin America and the Far North.

Otherwise, the whole structure loses its meaning.

Very often one of the styles of family interaction is the so-called style of "triangle". Mother and father or mother and grandmother are unspoken struggle for love, attention, obedience to his son. They compete with each other in the amount of love and adoration of the child. A child is a child becomes accustomed myself to feel the top of the triangle, for the love that fight the other side. Style of adult behavior that we have a couple of decades - to search for habitual state of bliss, when for you, for your love of two women fighting. The wife and mistress, for example. As you know, in this case, the goal of treason is not sex, not love, but something else. Moving between the angles of the triangle such a man never makes a decisive choice in favor of one party or another. And his wife certainly be one way or another, be aware of the fact that her husband is fighting someone else. Otherwise, the whole structure loses its meaning. If the family triangle, the boy was not the top corner and fighting for the attention of the parties (a situation such as when a family of several children), it grows up, it creates a slightly different "triangle". Such a man accustomed to the rivalry in love, first of all pleasures for him - take away a woman from someone else. In this case, the purpose of his game - not a woman and a man with whom he competes subconsciously, it need not have another woman, and beat another man. Very often the mother is so very attached to her son that he had his whole life is psychologically connected to her. Very common and familiar to many situations, generating so-called "momma's boy. Most women believe that that's just this type of men's infidelity is simply not capable, they say, they are born henpecked. Alas, it is not. And then there are two versions of events. In his wife's sissy looking for a same "mama", that is a devoted, caring wife and mother of his children, a kind of "mother-nurse." He genuinely loves and appreciates his wife, he is without it, literally, as without hands, but ... he soon ceases to see her sexual partner, no longer feel attracted to her as a woman. The identification of his wife with his mother so completely that arises in the soul of man unconscious protest against "incest". It is clear that for sex (he is normal in all respects a man) sissy begins to look for another woman. In doing so he is not going to leave his wife, he continues her truly and deeply love, and sometimes even warns about his mistress. The second scenario occurs when the "sissy", albeit belatedly, beginning to feel the natural need to separate from the "mother-wife, as do all normal adolescents, only a little at a younger age. Then the "march to the left" means nothing, as a natural teenage protest, a revolt against the influence of the "mammy". It's funny that the insurgency is overgrown teenager behaves exactly like a bad boy who really really want to go back under the reliable "Mama" barrels.

Do dreams have meaning? Already ...

Do dreams have meaning? Already well, we're halfway to success! However, in this case raises questions of interpretation method. The origin and reputation of Mr. Dream - doubtful. The psychoanalytic view of dreams is special. Dreaming recognizes a full product of mental functioning, and the interpretation of dreams becomes a "royal road" to the unconscious. In this "strangeness" of dreams is understood as the result of psychological censorship that distorts the dream thoughts. So there is a distinction between "explicit" content of the dream - that we remember after waking up and we can tell, and "hidden thought" the dream - the reconstruction and the articulation of which is actually the work of dream interpretation. The Interpretation of Dreams held in several stages and is subject to certain rules. First and most important rule is: the interpretation of dreams in psychoanalysis is a therapeutic procedure and is carried out if necessary to achieve the therapeutic (in the broadest sense) effect. The Interpretation of Dreams - for the love of art - in real psychotherapeutic process is meaningless, and may even do harm. The next rule - the interpretation of dreams without the dreamer is not carried out! The fact is that to adequately understand or that dream images can only be - just putting it in the personal context of the dreamer. If I had a table and you, too, had a table that does not mean that we think about the same. If I ask you, what comes to mind when you think of the table, you may remember her birthday yesterday, the company at the table, etc. My desk is possibly a desk at which I now write this article, etc. This idea is called 'associations to the elements of the dream. Proper psychoanalytic interpretation of dreams is based on free association of all the fragments of dreams. If, for any - reason to collect the dreamer's associations is not possible, the interpretation should not be carried out. From this follows the requirement of full-time psychoanalytic presence dreamer at the time of interpretation. All others, including Horoscopes, and on-line methods of dream interpretation is not correct, and are on a scale from pole misconceptions and lack of professionalism to the pole of intentional fraud, deceit, and profanity. The results of the interpretation of dreams in psychoanalysis are not limited to a single function, such as predicting the future (so-called. "Prophetic dreams"). Psychoanalysts, most people think of the performance of desire, and intrapsychic conflict is dramatized in the dream. The dream can be interpreted in the "object" or "subjective" level. If I had a neighbor my uncle John, Joe, how does that mean? If I decide that I must find out the relationship with his uncle Vasya - I realize his dream to "object" level, as relevant here in this real uncle Basil. If I ask myself, "not" live "in me, in my soul a character like Uncle Vasya - I, thus, closer to the interpretation of the" subjective "level.

This is becoming a familiar style ...

Usually, such a need in the purely psychological compensation appears after a major life failure, strong impact on self-esteem men. About the third. Is typical for men with a good sense, romantic kind. They firmly believe in the myth of two halves, which must meet and then be happy. All of his failures in his personal life and constant quest, they explain that they simply unlucky in love, they still have not found the one single. It is interesting that while they consider themselves Monogamous, just the same one only, has not yet met. Fourth occasion. There is a type of men "Daffodils" was extremely conceited, believing in its exclusivity, being different. These people need constant admiration, as we have in the daily diet, they were accustomed to take what they want, just because they are "special". Good Woman? "No question, it will be mine!". By the way, "Daffodils" cools to each new passion, as only a "hobby" becomes accessible and commonplace. Occasional fifth. Many members of the male sincerely believe that sex on the side - not cheating at all, but just kind of behavior inherent in any "real man", such as smoking or alcohol. And it is very important that all the friends saw each new passion, rate it, perhaps, would envy. Very many men lead to a change in their individual psychological problems triggered by an early age by their parents, parenting style, family relations. And with this group of men is not so simple. You can, of course, accustomed to stigmatize their definitions of "male", "dog", etc., but it will be obvious simplification of the problem. Let's try to tell a little about these causes of male infidelity. It turns out that another type of men inclined to change that - misogynists, relating to all women like second-class beings. Such a deep, unconscious hatred of all women is caused, as a rule, emotional traumas of childhood. Conquest of each new woman, a betrayal to his wife - a way of aggression, the opportunity to strike while the two women. Just do not think this is some kind of villains, such an attitude toward all beings feminine sits deep in the subconscious. Cause of distant childhood long forgotten, but the style of behavior was, and was the only familiar. If the mother loved her son, giving him and only him all my love, denying themselves all over, including in the device's own personal happiness (as you know, we are talking about single mothers), the son begins to perceive itself as a universal gift as God's gift to all women, without exception, occurring in its path. This is becoming a familiar style of his association with the opposite sex. But that dose of adoration, to which he was accustomed, and which can only give only the mother, the man simply can not find one, albeit a very loving his woman, wife, friend. Account the quality of recruit. Only in this version, a man nearly enough of the love and attention, to which he was accustomed to since childhood.

Freud called this condition "neurosis ...

Freud called this a state of "anxiety neurosis". The second form of fear, as opposed to just described, mentally more connected and connected to certain objects or situations. It is a fear in the form of an extremely diverse and often very strange "phobia." Some of the objects and situations that inspire fear among neurotics and normal people, is something terrible and are related to risk, and therefore these phobias seem to us clear, though exaggerated by its strength. For example, widespread fear of reptiles: snakes, frogs, as well as mice, rats, etc. Or fears associated with the risk of flying on an airplane and drive a car. However, what strikes us in these phobias neurotic - so it's not so much of their content, how much intensity. Fear of phobias just indescribable! There is another group of phobias, which are generally difficult to understand rationally. As such can be considered irrational fear of open or closed spaces, or many phobias of animals. At this point, there are several important issues. Is it possible to neurotic fear, in which risk plays no role, and link with the real fear is always a reaction to danger? And how should we understand the neurotic fear? Productive, apparently, is the assumption that where there is fear, has to be something that people fear. Clinical psychoanalysis finds a causal connection between the processes in the sexual life and the state of fear. Under certain conditions (the practice was interrupted sexual intercourse, sexual abstinence, etc.), sexual arousal disappears, and instead it appears the fear in various forms. Libido (sexual arousal) is replaced by fear. Thus, analysts say that the neurotic fear I am a patient tries to escape from the demands of their sexual desires, treating this request as a threat. However, under the influence of psychological defenses (eg, displacement, projection, and offset) the risk is perceived as internal, but as coming from outside: forming one or other phobia. Freud likened the phobia from the trenches against external danger, which actually is a fearsome sexual desire. Counseling psychologist, therapist

Interpretation of Dreams in Psychoanalysis

Kurakin Oleg Psychologist-psychotherapist Before interpret dreams, we obviously need to be sure that it is a worthy occupation. It is no secret that many people think dreams are delusions than - the senseless and useless: the dream is a cesspool of our mind, the dregs of daylight, rational thinking. If we think so, then the interpretation of dreams is impaired, turning into a foolish exercise, for fools and perverts - because it is a dubious pleasure of digging in a dump! Others are optimists, do not leave with Horoscopes, they recognize the dreams of some meaning and interpretation of dreams see common occupation, attributing dreams to predict the future.

Any restorative procedure ...

First of all, your life, and it you have one. Come and play sports, meet with a friend, you have not seen a hundred years. Begin to take care of themselves. Any restorative procedures - a contrast shower, swimming, running - should also be held in line with self-love. A sports professionally should be mandatory, because the motion of the body itself begins to make matter - anti-depressants. Well, the best prevention of such states is healthy sadness about those things that already happened. Olga Smirnova

Why does a man change?

There are several "excuses" of male adultery, most commonplaces, which knows and has a lot to porasskazat any woman, and men too. For example: "the marriage began to seem somewhat boring, monotonous, every day is similar to the following. Closeness was boring duty, and in his wife's eyes I still do not see any enthusiasm ... ". Or another cause of treason, has already become a textbook: the husband left because enticed a young and beautiful rival. Somehow, many women are convinced to leave only Pozar "to something more attractive." Statistics show the opposite: most men go to the one who looks inferior to his wife. Apparently, it's not in appearance, but the fact that another man saw a man and his wife - his customary ownership. Another "standard" cause treachery occurs during a man's life when there is something in the ".. the beard and the devil - in edgewise, that is, after forty years of age. Age in itself difficult, crisis, one can say for many reasons, including deeply personal, and now with the coming of old age it's time to fight. During this period, betrayal - a sort of protest against the aging, trying to prove to himself and others that "I have nothing to himself, something to fit." Well everyone knows how to embark in all serious, even try to get away from the family, is not it? However, there are quite a few reasons for high treason, of which the average betrayed wife has no idea. Of course the fact of treason - a thing in itself rather unpleasant and hurtful, and numerous Madam Broshkina can rightly argue: "But what have I to do some sort of reason! Left after all! Because - male, that's all! ". But if you stop feeling sorry for myself, and curse "vile apostate" and try to look at the situation constructively, then the knowledge of the fine mechanisms, causes, pushing our beloved husband to commit adultery, do not be over. At least to give practical advice girlfriend, who came to you complain to the vest. So, excuse the first. According to the strict and incorruptible science - statistics, 40% of men change ... out of revenge. For that, you ask? Many reasons: revenge for treason (real or imaginary) wife for her bad character (it conflicts, growls, does not appreciate her husband, humiliates him, demanding money, etc.), because in the family to a man inattentive, not interested in his cases, mood. Concerning the second. The new novel is needed in order to enhance self-esteem a man in his own eyes and in the eyes of others.

In certain tragicomic ...

In certain tragicomic situations I was able to beat his stammer, that the school had any of my peers and my head could not come to laugh at me. A man without a sense of humor, often touchy and so unhappy. It is difficult to live among people. He was suspicious and any innocent joke in your email address may be perceived as an insult. But the priceless property of the person who can laugh at themselves. This I learned well from his childhood. Read more articles by the author, please visit: steal - so the boat? (Larceny: the behavioral dependence) http://www.medlinks.rurticle.php?sid=21640 oniomania: a passion to fly http://www . medlinks.rurticle.php? sid = 21076 workaholism: work - the drug and the tyranny of debt http://www.medlinks.rurticle.php?sid=20719 Adrenalinomaniya http://www.medlinks.rurticle.php?sid=20229 Dependence to gambling http://www.medlinks.rurticle.php?sid=20528 Tackling gaming addiction http://www.medlinks.rurticle.php?sid=19908 Television - the online drug http://www.medlinks.rurticle . php? sid = 18454 What brought the horse? (drug prevention in schools) http://www.medlinks.rurticle.php?sid=18396 soul captive of my desires (psychology of dependency) http://www.medlinks.rurticle. php? sid = 13305

Psychology of fear. Forms of fear

Kurakin Oleg Psychologist-psychotherapist Fear needs no introduction, and each of us knows from experience that experience. But it neurotics tend to fear much more than others. There is no doubt that the problem of fear - the central point, which converge the most important issues of mental life, both in norm and in pathology. Ever since Freud, the fear can be divided into real fear and neurotic. The real fear is for us what - it is quite rational and understandable: it is a reaction to the perception of external danger. As such, this fear is reasonable and serves a signal function: the danger is close, get ready for defense or escape. very widespread fear and affect people's tendency to respond to fear in many situations is partly due to psychoanalysis as a presence in the psyche of the core fear that is relevant to the early impression of a man. It is, above all, the impressions of the act of birth, at which there is a massive integration of unpleasant experiences, which becomes the prototype of the impact of mortal danger and has since been repeated, we as a state fear. psychoanalysis also recognizes the very significant that the first state of fear has arisen as a result of separation from the mother. With regard to neurotic fear, here, there are several forms of it. Firstly, the so-called free fear, ready to bind to any more or less suitable representation . It's pointless or bezobektny fear. This fear is called "fear of expectations" or "fearful expectation." Sufferers of this fear, always ready for the worst, they live in anticipation of misfortune.

Try for a few days "fall into a coma."

He feels close to her lack of confidence, a certain inferiority of their presence, uselessness, incompetence. That certainly does not strengthen family relationships. - And how to handle this? Maybe go? - Not the fact that this will help. You may grieve the same way and change the situation. Travel will be beneficial only if you'll find a solution to your problem. Must have the courage and boldness and see what's going on with your life. But to do this preferably with the help of a psychologist, not to get caught up in this state even deeper. Try for a few days "fall into a coma." Reinforce your depression. Let your loved one, about anything without asking, and make love to you, as a good nurse. Three days of absolute inaction - both physical and mental - is particularly helpful when depression is superimposed on fatigue. But that is uniquely bad in this situation, so it is to wear a mask. You have to portray people other emotions, to spend the energy, and depression in the meantime only intensified. If possible, limit the communication of the work to take home. Go to dinner alone, and not in the company of colleagues. And takes off his mask in the moments when you have no one sees. How to cope with grief is necessary to realize the cause, try to find out what's going on with you and your life. The whole world is crumbling around, because you left a favorite? Maybe you are tormented by itself alone. And is not that left little importance in general for your life man. You may have idealized it too, only not to be left alone. And this fact need to take and survive, rather than drive out of consciousness. Tosca is always a specific reason. They just have to see, and do not blame the whole world the injustice to himself. And then the hopelessness appears clearance. Take responsibility for sebya.Kazhdy of us has the ability to be happy. Because destiny - it's actually not what happens to you. Destiny - it is a choice, our choice. We choose the life that lead. Now suppose that, having married, you are part of the responsibility for himself, his mood and gave the man. And if something is wrong, then he is guilty, and you fall into a depression you. But is it only the husband should be responsible for you to be happy? Return this part of the responsibility and do something good for yourself. Such emotional independence helps to solve many problems of family life. . Gain control over the situation. Bouts of depression can rob us of confidence. Take control of your feelings until you get the ease of gesture, the ease in the body. Try to see the good even in bad. Love sebya.Depressivnuyu woman is hard to get something done. It has to be negotiated. Tell me: my dear, I love you so much. Let's us now, get up, umoemsya and remove in the closet. We will do everything to you today was good. And yourself praise. And then, in spite of that, we begin to engage each other. Regardless of what mood my husband came, and what is now a relationship with him.

Psychotherapy or other forms of ...

Psychotherapy or other forms of treatment have not been applied. School, where he studied Nicholas closed, students redirected to other schools of the Northern district of Tallinn. The new school for Nicholas, a new class of adaptation took place very difficult. By teachers in dealing with uchinikami dominated policy, authoritarian forms of relationships. In the classroom, in peer diminirovali unhealthy competition, the relationship: "leaders suppressed the timid zastenchevyh. In the character of Nicholas is clearly dominated by timidity and shyness. Nicholas quickly got into a group of "boys to fight" for four months was subjected to psychological pressure from the leaders of the class and bullying (the toilet was set on fire pack Nicholas). Immediately after this incident, Nicholas developed a strong logoneurosis. The parents appealed to a psychiatrist, was appointed course of olanzapine and relief from oral responses in class. During the month, the dynamics of improvement was not observed. The psychiatrist gave direction to the course of psychological assistance. The school principal, I think the plan ENTERTAINMENT advised to improve the situation at school and in the classroom Nicholas involving parents and school authorities of the asset. Nicholas was carried out diagnostics of the CNS, signs of organic lesions were found. Program, "Speak, Cicero!" Nicholas proshlel for 6 weeks. In addition to joint training, Nicholas diligently perform exercises at home, securing a rapid recovery of speech. In addition, Nicholas recommended practice in the hockey club. After graduating from the program during the summer vacation Nicholas got the job for the independent voice training. In early September, after three months of summer vacation (during a visit to the office of Applied Psychology) in Nicholas of speech is not revealed. There is a Chinese proverb: "The train that wait - never come! Approach must be comprehensive and personality oriented, with a single purpose: to help a child or adult to remove the speech interference and re-start for personal growth. We are real people, not static systems. Our desire to improve their health and achieve a greater awareness for its harmonious and psychological growth in the dynamic development of modern society. At different periods of his life had difficulty speech Sir Winston Churchill, the great scientist Sir Isaac Newton, the writer W. Somerset Maugham, the sex symbol of the twentieth century, Marilyn Monroe, actor Bruce Willis, the poet Robert Rozhdestvensky, author of "Uncle Stepa" and the anthem of Russia C. . Mikhalkov ... made some efforts, they have greatly helped himself to return free speech. When Sergei Mikhalkov, left his father's home, his father admonished his son: "Most of all you love to write poetry. Test their strength. Learn more. Try to recover from stuttering. Work on themselves. Maybe with time you anything and will . But the main thing that came out of you man! " Sergei Mikhalkov himself reminisces about yourself is: "I was seventeen years old. Suffering from childhood speech defect - stuttering, I was never ashamed of his lack.