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Rich's wife

To learn how you can avoid family conflict associated with money, says Ph.D., director of the Moscow Center for Psychotherapy and counseling psychology at the Institute of Sciences, Senior Research Fellow of the Institute Alexander V. Makhnach. - Always there is inevitable conflict, if the woman earns more than her husband? - I would not consider this situation so unique. Conflict situations, where the main and only reason for becoming just the money found in homes less often. They are in most cases can be easily solvable, and, most importantly, they can be prevented. If a family conflict arises because of money, often to look for other reasons. Marriages in which the woman earns more than her husband does not usually fall apart because of money. And because in this case, break some stereotypes for both men and women. The man is very sensitive to this situation by reason of the male psychology and traditions of our culture. A woman can be difficult to resist the temptation to emphasize its consistency. High earnings are often becomes her way of compensation for years of unsettled life, a symbol of independence. And this transformation is, of course, leads to serious conflicts, until the collapse of the family. - That is, the marriage is doomed to failure? - Yes - in cases where there is a substitution of the true value of material equivalent of a woman trying to occupy a dominant position in the family. - And if a man earns is not enough, and restricts the wife of the costs, thus prompting her to seek high-paying jobs? - This situation - already known to be disputed, because the man thus firmly declares its proprietary position of the owner of the family, which determines everything. In this case the woman is unlikely to find a common language with my husband. Her attempt to assert themselves through high-paying job will definitely extremely negative reaction. - How should behave in a woman, if she managed to get a job with a higher than her husband's earnings, not to spoil the relationship? - To avoid serious conflicts in the future spouses must advance before leaving for work, agree that this situation is temporary. So it will not always. Today, more fortunate woman, and three years later, for example, everything will change, and better paying jobs can find a man. But in order for these three years, marriage has not collapsed, it is necessary to temporarily reallocate roles and responsibilities within the family. For example, to shift onto the shoulders of her husband and other household part of the "female" concerns that it does not interfere with normal work wife. Most likely, her husband reluctantly agree to such a conversation, but it is better to try to establish in advance the new rules of the game. Worse, when a man suddenly finds that everything has changed and continues to live no longer be obtained. Instances where the reason why families break up - a million. - What if an agreement could not be better to forego opportunities to improve the financial situation and then regret it? - No, you just need patience.