Incidentally, this "elimination of the" inner ...

The second "critical" age for appearance self-esteem accounted for fifth decade. Number of negative emotions about the non-winning appearance with age only increases. Partly this is because over the years, there is an additional source of discontent - a comparison with their younger counterparts. Another characteristic - in this age through a desire to change, to improve their appearance, often seen the need to resolve the deeper psychological problems: a long time, continuing dependence on another person, chronic dissatisfaction with the way of life, progress, family situation, etc. Incidentally, this "elimination of the" inner psychological problems, even if not of global attitudes to their own appearance, typical for women of all ages. You probably noticed that if something upset, then to the mirror is better suited to: immediately obvious to all the wrinkles, the figure looks awful, and his hair - well, did not want to pack! It turns out that the appearance is as a scapegoat for the fact that we have a bad mood. Therefore we advise to pay attention to when and in what situations you begin to chafe at the "defects" appearance. Maybe something else to blame. Body, whatever it was, on the right is an integral part of our personality. And part of it, actively influencing our character. It is interesting that such a close symbiosis between the physical and inner "I" in the more typical it is for women. We conclude that happy if we're lucky there, as far as can be realized, and something we expect from life, based on a very large extent on our assessment of their appearance. Men with these things differently, their self-esteem is not as dependent on external data. Satisfaction with their appearance comes only with a positive self-perception: "Yes, I look exactly like that! I - that's me! And I imagine like me! ". I foresee objections readers: do not cheat nature, and how to feel beautiful, if a figure, face, hair - all this is far from perfect. So, ugly women in nature simply does not exist. And psychologists who work with women's issues, believe that the differentiation into "beautiful" and "ugly" is fundamentally wrong. Instead, they offer a different scale of female attractiveness: "Women optimistic" and "women are pessimistic." To help you better understand the difference, let's look at these two female types in detail. "Pessimists women" never notice the merits of their appearance, the focus of their self-perception is directed only at the disadvantages. As a consequence, they are always unhappy with each other, lamenting its real and imaginary defects, they can only talk about what they in themselves do not like and how they suffer from it. The suffering of these, as you know, does not always passive, more often - active. But, trying to adjust their appearance, "pessimistic women" require a precise matching "ideal" to achieve that, naturally, they can not.