And that is now to blame ...

And now let's get to the "ideal" to which "we should strive." Each era brings its own ideal of feminine beauty, with certain shapes and proportions of facial features. What do you think, how many real women can meet this ideal? Correctly. Units! But what about the rest? The choice is not rich: You can reasonably guided by the "standard", to create his own image, in accordance with their natural abilities. Is it possible, contrary to what has awarded us the nature of, any forces seek to match the fashion. In recent years, the standard of female beauty is a woman's figure, according to their parameters approaching the teen. We have been told that the beautiful are not rounded female forms, and a nearly sexless image, only hint at the further transformation of the girl into a woman. But if you are already shaped, mature woman, it is unlikely to really "fit" under his adolescent ideal. This attempt doomed to failure. And the failure, this entails an even greater dissatisfaction with himself, developing into chronic. Several more years of this permanent state of frustration in itself, and hopelessness - and depression about their appearance is provided to you. The only all-century ideal of female attractiveness - women's personality! Each woman is unique and unrepeatable and the benefits are not in the pursuit of "beauty standard", which, as we see, capricious and changeable, and her special and personal appeal. It is another matter whether we are able to take our identity, proud of it. But back to the "pessimistic woman." The surrounding is very often considered her unattractive: faded appearance, uncertain gait, hunched shoulders. It literally screams with all his appearance: "I'm ugly." And people would gladly read these signals and believe them. After all, you probably know that 80% of information about an unknown person, we get from his non-verbal signals (facial expression, posture, voice, manner of moving, etc.) So, in truth, there is no ugly women, there are those who consider themselves to be! And another characteristic of "pessimistic women." They honestly believe that, having achieved the "ideal" appearance, once they become happy: and the nature of the camp is softer, and the behavior of a more confident, and joy for life will appear, and friends will meet more often in the evenings no longer sit at home, with men will emerge not just as before, and the dress will be fashionable, and with career things go much faster ... Alas, none of this would be. And that is now to blame for not appearance, and your attitude to it. In the jargon of psychology - an internal problem of externally imposed and, thus, of course, is not solved. Quite different things with the appearance of a "woman optimistic." Do you think saving them an illusion about his own unearthly beauty? No way! They really appreciate and winning features of their appearance and those that leave much to be desired. The whole point of emphasis. And the accent "optimistic woman" is doing on its merits.