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This, by the way, and affective flashes, sudden isolation, withdrawal in response to requests from parents and teachers to explain the reasons for their behavior. Such cases are now no less frequently than a lie, caused by fear of punishment. If your child is cheating on you, you should not seek from him tortured the truth, which is deliberately hiding them. Demanding that the son or daughter immediately confess all, you jeopardize your relationship with him. Case Study: Mom knows that her daughter Olga from time to time continued to use drugs, although she goes to school and his psychologist also said that drugs are not used. Mother asks her daughter: "Olga, you went back to the old?". "Olga says: No, I'm on drugs now in the tie." The reaction of my mother: "I know you're kidding me, Olga. Why did you do that? And now tell me the truth!". Instead of requiring that a son or daughter to confess all, a better understanding of how the purpose for which your child is cheating on you. Maybe his lies is associated with fear to tell you the truth, for which your child will be punished or humiliated you? Or it is done in order to attract attention and perhaps cause offense pursuer-parent. In the previous example, the other, the opposite reaction to my mother to deceive his daughter might have a different reaction: "Olga, I see that you continue to use drugs. For whom did you decide to abandon them and to whom it is profitable to pretend that all is well?". Olga insists: "I now do not use drugs." Then my mother calmly and without any further ado, Olga takes the hand and leads into the bathroom and suggests that a rapid test for drugs in urine. Note that the mother did not make much of a problem of deception. This is not the daughter tries to deceive his mother. This addiction causes Olu deceiving mother. When embarking on psychosocial rehabilitation program at the beginning to agree that the test-control can be performed at any time during the course of rehabilitation, regardless, the teenager will tell the truth or trying to cheat, regardless - if the behavior has changed for the better or for worse. This should be taken as a factor contributing to recovery. Necessary to derive the relationship from the plane of suspicion, accusations and mistrust, manipulation of the plane, the plane of the unconscious Games Victim - The Chaser - The Savior. " Such tactics can be applied in other situations, not only related to drug addiction. It happens that parents ask their children to such questions, the answers to which they are known in advance. This phenomenon is often the reason for the continuation of child deception. Why resort to lies? Why try to blame others? For various reasons: maybe - irresponsibility, perhaps because of shyness, fear of punishment. Maybe what has happened, causing confusion. The child begins to tell lies to please, or through the lies he has, thus, resistance.