To adapt your past education ...

Adapt your past education, your child's development. Correlates with the development of your concept of your child. Your child is growing. Consider how the needs of the age affects the child's behavior. 4-year and 10-year-old boy will behave in the same conflict in different ways. "The best engine for the development of independence, that makes three of your baby, talk to you - NO, this is what motivates him, not to be trained in secret," writes Steinberg. "This causes a spike in intellectual growth, which makes your 13-year old curious and inquisitive and stubborn in the classroom, as well as stubborn at the dinner table." For example:-grader easily distracted, irritable. His schooling suffered. He conflict. Parents need to punish him more, or they need to understand how his feelings are seeking to protect its own dignity? "With 13-years, the problem may be many things," says Steinberg. - "He may be depressed. He could receive less necessary amount of sleep. He lies too late? This may be because he just needs some help in the structuring of time to allow to find time for other activities. He may have cognitive problems. Boost him to do better - not the answer. The problem must be diagnosed by a professional. "5. Establish and strictly enforce the rules. "If you do not control the behavior of your child when he was small, it will have dire consequences in the future, arising from a lack of skills to manage him when he becomes an adult, but you will not be there. Any time day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where - is my child? Who - with my child? "How is my child doing?" The rules that your child will learn from you, will form the rules that he applies to himself. "" But you can not manipulate your child or to control the details, "said Steinberg,. "As soon as they are in high school, you should let your child make his own home and spiritual work, to make their own choices, and not to interfere." 6. Encourage your child's independence. "Adjust the limits to help your child develop a sense of composure. An encouraging independence, and help it evolve into a sense of self-governance. To be successful in life, you need both qualities." It is normal for children to strive for autonomy, he said. "Many parents mistakenly equate the independence of their child with no obedience or disobedience. Children are striving for independence, because it is - a part of human nature to feel self-government rather than to feel control from someone else." 7. To be consistent. "If your rules change from day to day, unpredictable way, or if you are asking them only occasionally, your child's fault - your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool - a sequence.