If the children are afraid of the unknown, it is much worse than if they meet the reality face to face. In addition, children's fantasy can create horrific images, and a special contribution to make stimulating fantasy-horror movies, all kinds of monsters: cartoon characters and toys, the characters of computer games and comic books. And we refuse to discuss this difficult topic for us, we have no way of knowing about the problems of children and help them. On the other hand, it is unwise to afflict children information they can not understand or do not want to know. Children are very sensitive and we need to tactfully find the right words to support them, seek necessary in this particular situation, a balance between the avoidance of discussion and an honest, open conversation. Such a balance difficult to achieve, and we can be helpful to remember the following: sensitively capture the desire of children to communicate when they are ready for it to maintain openness, thus contributing to attempts of children to discuss what they care about, to listen and to take children's fears, when we really upset, giving children honest explanations, answer questions in simple language, appropriate to their age, try to find a short, simple answers, relevant children's issues, and to avoid prolixity, perhaps the most difficult to discuss issues specifically related to death, because while subjected our own feelings and beliefs. But when the opportunity arises, we have the opportunity to talk with our children more naturally. WE CAN NOT ANSWER ALL QUESTIONS We feel uncomfortable when talking to children, if we can not answer any questions. It seems that young children expect parents know everything, even death. But death being a very specific phenomenon, at the same time the most mysterious phenomenon in life. Familiarity with death and the expectation it can last a lifetime. And our answers may be different in different periods of our life, and maybe we can never get rid of feelings of insecurity and fear. And we can be absolutely clear, as we find supportive and comforting answers for our children if we ourselves remain unresolved fears and questions. Despite the fact that not all our answers may be comforting for children, we can share with you what really believe. But we must be honest and in those matters in which we doubt. Phrase: "I now do not know the answer." may be more supportive than our lack of self explanation. Children tend to feel our doubts. White lie, regardless of our intentions, can cause anxiety and mistrust. Sooner or later our children will still realize that we can not know everything. And we will make it less painful discovery for them if we calmly and casually tell them that we do not know all the answers. If we do not defend ourselves and take the child's feelings associated with the incompleteness of our knowledge, this is, in turn, may also help him feel better in a situation where he does not know why.
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