Whenever her mother was going to ...

Every time when my mother was going to go home, the girl covered the strongest fear. Daughter believed that her mother left her forever. In the insulator need maternal care and affection was not satisfied and has been "frozen." Twenty years later, this "frozen" the need manifested itself in the form of emotional dependency - needs all the time to call on a cell phone to her husband because of what a serious problem in the relationship with their spouse. When people are on the hook for some - or addiction, they begin to perceive the world only through the blinders that are put on this relationship. But the blinders is not only narrow the space, but also distort it. The impression is that people are starting to see through the transparent "distorting mirror". For example, telefonomaniya. These people all the time not only thinking about how they would call (it does not matter who), but that as many around the evil and greedy people who deliberately deny them this opportunity. The addicted person does not see his mistakes, blames circumstances, external forces or people. Them something or someone interferes with that is, shifting attention from himself, with his fortune in search of enemies and detractors. In other words, consciousness is absent. You know the parable as a conversation between a deaf-mute, deaf, paralyzed and blind, dumb? One man, who was freed from smoking, reminiscing about the time dependence, talked about his perception: "I was not blind and could see perfectly what is happening to me, as I have with cigarettes groblyu my health, I was not deaf, great listener, me my mother: "Son, you'll kill yourself infinite number of cigarettes." Doctor, I was not paralyzed, he was trying to get rid of cigarettes many times, all attempts to quit ended with new breakdowns, and was "paralyzed" to help himself, and to you for a consultation was eight months old, although I live close to two hundred meters from you . When attempts were made to abstinence, I only thought of the pain of breaking the nicotine and I was scared. Something prevented me to see and evaluate realistically their situation, common sense to me is not reached, I was paralyzed from my initiative, I was bound hand and foot to free himself from the shackles of dependency. "That same" something "and a psychological dependence, which paralyzes the will, consciousness and distorts thinking permeates both soul and body, subjecting only one life, as once again get "comforter" of his addiction. Under these conditions the energy of creation is transformed into energy self-destructive energy of creativity is converted into energy resourcefulness and deception - in any way to get his "a comforter." Friedrich Nietzsche once wrote that the object of the present marriage must be creative, to create a new, independent person, always able to create. A tight knot of dependence - a complex, tight knot, which tied everything: the medical aspect (biomedical, biochemical, physiological, etc.), psychological aspect, social, economic, socio-cultural, cultural and other aspects.