How much is a NO!

but let's think how to solve the problem. " If you believe that an aggressive style of the partner to cause appreciable harm to your personality, look for another. Source: AIF Family Council Source: Internet publication "MED + info" to "expert advice" on the site www.medinfo.ru 

How much is NO!

They are about something asking them to advise, and they do that at all and do not want to buy absolutely the right thing, go where, obviously they know to be uninteresting and boring. And sometimes the opposite: denying themselves something that is long dreamed of, just to give pleasure to someone else. You are invited to a party which does not want to go, but you're going, because so eager friends. All around you are smoking and you, too - why stand and go against the company? Especially this behavior is typical of sub-germs: it's cold outside, but they did not put on a hat - it's now out of fashion, they like collecting stamps, listening to classical music, but they spend hours talking about computers or buying as all the ticket on the pop- concert. And adrift, letting others decide what to do. Be "like everyone else" - convenient, because the responsibility for the actions is shared among all. It is believed that there are other "benefits": you are always right, because all the same, you have many friends who are easy to communicate with you, you have no risk make enemies, everyone thinks you are good and courteous, in his board. However, this is not the best way to create and maintain a deep relationship of trust between people. Firstly, because if all the time to speak only what they want to hear from you, you lose credibility. Secondly, you can deprive yourself of the right to build their own lives, that is freedom of choice. Third, you and your opinion finally stopped being considered, and change the process much more difficult than to refuse the first time. "Of course, this is not about me - tell someone - I always know how to insist on his own. My desire for me - the law. I'm ready to argue with anyone, but it will in my opinion. " Yes, such a position, of course, speaks of inner strength. But friends and such a person, quite frankly, is not enough if they are, of course, in general there. So how do you act and behave to friends and were good, and yourself not to forget? How to make your views are listened to? In such cases, it is important to understand who and how to say no. After all, the situation may be different, as well as the reasons for the refusal. Such a different "no": 1. Unconditional, unequivocal "no" - when you offer to do something contrary to your principles and ideals ("No Drugs", "no war"). In case of refusal may even harshness and brutality. 2. "No" - in the circumstances - when you already have commitments to other people. Enough to explain the reason for refusal. 3. Coquettish "no" - they usually enjoy the girls, who like their long sought. Even eager, they are forced to languish for a long time boyfriend, looking forward to our dating. Often a "no" - one of the ways light flirting.