In the future these skills will enable faster and more harmoniously adapt to new conditions. Situation is more complicated if the child is accustomed to being the focus of the entire family. Its needs, the needs perceived by adults as an immediate message to the action, rather than as an occasion for reflection. Losing the status of the most important in the family, child, following its own logic, decides that he no longer needed. It can also activate the mechanism of compensation. Not getting as much attention from their parents, as before, the child begins to take it himself. This can result in whims, the backlog in school, excessive obsession and ... theft as a way to attract attention. Child does not realize why it comes, so no questions, arguments, explanations of guilt in this situation will not help. We have not considered the most obvious cases where a child is brought up in an environment where the appropriation of someone else's life is the norm rather than an aberration, and drew attention to the pitfalls that can waylay even the parents of a happy family. In this case, need qualified assistance of competent psychologist to identify the true cause, which served as a prerequisite for action baby, and make a program of joint action of the whole family. Why so do teens As a teenager at the forefront communication with peers. The desire to join the company, to be taken there and at the same time protect their identity, "their rights" - the most characteristic features of adolescents. It happens that a teenager having trouble finding a common language with their peers, when it is difficult to quickly and harmoniously integrate into the company. The reasons may serve as a natural shyness, inability to communicate and establish contact with people, the role of "pariah" or "scapegoat" in the class, the transition to a new school, and much more. If the adolescent low self-esteem, low levels of accountability for their actions, there is no ability to defend their point of view, but a desire by all means go to the selected company is great - it can lead to the fact that the teenager will try to buy the location of their peers. "Fee" can be expressed in different ways: to dress in certain clothes, to follow a certain musical direction taken by the group, read the literature certain sense (if it is intelligent tusovka). Here, the material factor is important: it allows you to easily enter into a collective, to express themselves accessible way, meet the requirements to seek the support of reference (significant) group. Another factor pushing teen to steal is an internal conflict between "need" and "want". When personal interests are put to the fore, and the interests of the family is practically ignored. Teenager is not formed properly attitude towards money and property. For example, in childhood, the stereotype - "money falling from the sky." Another question, if the family from time to time there are difficulties with finances, if you often do not have enough funds for new or fancy stuff.
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