The man with the conventional approach is thinking: "If ...

The man with the usual approach of thinking: "If you did not keep his word given in the other, you can dodge, avoiding meetings with them. To escape from yourself? It's the dread. There is a psychological trick: 'necks in the noose its prestige. If you decided to change their lives, announced to all - I quit smoking, I refuse to drink. " must be able to burn the bridges behind them. An article by Mark Twain calmly explained how he quit smoking. His main idea was that he did not give ourselves any obligations. He just did not smoke. And when he wanted, then lit a cigarette. He was free from certain obligations of the data itself, and therefore the feelings of inadequacy, fears begotten by such obligations. By the way, Jesus taught the disciples: "Do not swear." And so Twain, always knowing that, if they wish, can smoke, never smoked or smoked very seldom. For example, would be happy to try an expensive cigar, which is remembered for a long time, describing his feelings. Smoking, as an illusion, made of a celebration of life routine is hell, as one would say ancient Indians, consciousness ignorant, ignoble. And it concerns not only smoking "(Alexander Uris, private correspondence). Mark Twain, as he was a smoker, and he remained, despite the fact that he has obtained long periods of abstinence. CRITERIA FOR DEPENDENCE Before delineate the branches of the tree of dependencies, try to answer: addiction - and what is it? This property is a character? This feature of the behavior at the moment, when a problem exists, or you can talk about this in the past tense when the problem has been solved? No, I will not say the words - as if - the wise and useful, better to try to quietly live among the hardships, deprivation and disease. Can I help you in your trouble? What to soothe crying your heart? If the pain - you should look to itself Vyzhgi anger, despair, disbelief. 01/16/2002 (George Cyril "World blinded on the road to Damascus," p. 84 ed. Aleksandra Tallinn 2002)

I'll list a few criteria, taken separately, each of them had nothing said, and together, these criteria may indicate problem, which can be called addiction: 1. At some stage of life a person loses control over his behavior. Since that time dependence is completely possessed by his behavior, he wants it or not, usually begins to dictate to do so anyway, he falls under the sway of their addiction. 2. A person deprived of the ability of choice, he is one - to act as an agent requires a dependence, with the growing frequency of use of "comforter" (eg, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes or the act of gambling) with increasing doses of (chemical dependency), or increasing the length of stay in act of state-dependent behavior (eg, in a state of excitement). 3. Program behavior dependent person is so deeply embedded in human life that it becomes unconscious and unaccountable forces obey, with full return flow of self-destruction, so many people perceive their relationship as "protection" from irritability, frustration, as a solace from the hardships of isolation as a way of avoiding solving the problems of life. 4.