One has a son 12 years old ...

One has a son 12 years old. Engaged in business in the small business trade and quite successfully. Has one shop, one bar, cafe and several kiosks. For days on the job. Invited to a dinner party business partners. Son were allowed to sit at the table with his guests, he got a big piece of cake, which is neither as he could not overpower, the son then rose from the table, went to his room again to sweets. When the guests were about to leave home, they discovered the theft of a purse from a purse left in the hall under a mirror of one of the guests. Immediately began a detective investigating the crime scene. It was enough at a glance the mother that her son has confessed. Unmotivated theft: the conditions of formation of this dependence can be added, and the fact that often children do not have enough attention. In psychiatry, there is such a term: "negative narcissism" (the child is doing everything to get the inevitable punishment and after it gets the attention). And yet. When going to steal, anyway - the child is an adult or, in this situation there is always the risk of being caught in flagrante delicto or shortly thereafter. Involuntarily idle state, anxiety and fear against the selection of a large amount of adrenaline. This mix of emotions and peak physiological state (adrenaline) and is an "agent" of behavioral addiction, besides, this dependence occurs in the attraction of opposite emotional charge: the fear of being punished for stealing a (negative) - with one hand and on the other hand - the subconscious desire to take risks (positive). And this mix of adrenaline with the emotions of fear, anxiety, expectations began to work as a drug, creating a kind of "buzz" that want to repeat. These subconscious motives are usually not recognized, but felt good, like an obsessive desire. Authoritarian and directive techniques increase the anxiety and stress, included a paradoxical reaction and attracted only from this stronger. Therefore, any struggle, taboos, moral exhortations only complicate the situation, and therefore useless. Instead, the relationship with your child a healthy alternative to Build Relationships: - offer interesting case, which could be carried away by your child, and where and you might be (work, sports, communication with nature, photography, video, photography and much more). - Arrange a family council, which could be held after dinner or after dinner at the weekend, where the atmosphere of trust and respect for all of the events discussed in the family, worries and difficulties, successes and disappointments of children and adults where everyone is equally loved and significant. - Make it a rule to discuss current affairs son or daughter during the daily half-hour walk, where you can express your thoughts and feelings face to face and talk heart to heart. - Try to be a friend of your child, ask his anxieties, doubts and anxiety. Try to help him cope with these feelings. - Tune in to the joint search for solutions to any problems, please be patient in building partnerships.