Data on Moscow and St. Petersburg ...

Data in Moscow and St. Petersburg indicate that 2% of households in these cities make up pairs in which the husband over his wife of 20 years or more. Statistics show that every year the proportion of women who marry a man for 10 years and more of their older, increases in our country and abroad. British experts have estimated that by 2010 one in four will live in an English family in which her husband for at least 10 years her senior. Especially the rapid growth observed in those marriages, which experts call "with significant" or even "excessive difference in age, ie 15 years or more. If today is such alliances, as we said, only 6% by 2010 in the U.S. and Britain to be 15% and in Russia - about 10%. Imagine this figure: one in ten young women connect their lives with a man older than her 15 years and more! Particularly striking alliances in which the age difference is 25 years: in 1994, our three largest cities of their signed around 1000, 1995 - 1200, and in 1996 - 1500. If you ask anyone what the optimal ratio of aged men and women for a successful marriage, the vast majority (opinion polls carried out both here and abroad) said: "A man must be 3-4 years older than his wife." And here we are faced with one of the few cases where the opinion of the "man in the street" coincides exactly with the opinions of experts, armed with scientific data. Indeed, it is at such a small age gap specialists are watching the greatest satisfaction and spouses, and the largest number of children per family, and most harmonious intimate life, and the smallest number of divorces (37%). But the uneven-aged marriages, the ones where the gap is 10 years or more, are much less stable: divorces in which about 60% of children are much less satisfaction and psychological and sexual over the years is greatly reduced. By the way, if a group of families with traditional differences in the age of female treachery about 25% (though the male is almost 80!), In "nontraditional" almost half the women enter, the language of specialists, "in vnesupruzheskie connection. And yet, despite all the "but" every year more and more people are creating "different ages" of the family. Psychologists have always been interested emotional, intimate, and then the bond of marriage of young women with partners who are separated from them for a decade, and maybe more. What attracts them to each other? Why the attraction is so strong that it overcomes the resistance of family and friends, and common sense? What attracts men? Numerous studies of psychologists and psychotherapists observations have shown that men in union with a much younger woman attracted by the opportunity "to rejuvenate, to be transferred to 10-15 years ago, forget about their true age. Why is this so important? There is a perception that old age is afraid of only the fair sex. In fact, it is not: men are less afraid of women advancing age, decreased activity, including sexual, impotence, diseases.