Therefore, for the dry scientific definition ...

Do not deny yourself the pleasure to wear what you like. Continuing to weigh, to suffer in the mirror and compare yourself to others is useless.

Yevgeny Shaposhnikov, the doctor-therapist, a neuropsychologist, MD, professor,

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What is the "bad luck" and how to fight it?

For sure, every once in my life asking myself the question: Why does equal "starting conditions" and the level of education a person very quickly achieves its goals, setting new, and once again find ways to implement, while the other, having two levels of this "game" slows down and stalling? On this question a lot of answers and plenty of reasons may be to blame. But if this problem was puzzled psychologist, he must find out what this man has emotional intelligence. The term "emotional intelligence" appeared in the psychological literature in the early 1990's. In essence, this concept is nothing new, but rather a successful attempt to identify the qualities required for successful adaptation to society. Therefore, for the dry scientific definition hides what we mean: insight, willpower, ability to influence others, command respect and get along with people and adapt quickly to new surroundings. That is about all that, so different people from one another, even if they are equally well finished college. In addition, as a practicing psychologist, is ready to confirm that the majority of problems that turn people really are grouped around the four components of emotional intelligence. Thus, emotional intelligence includes: self-awareness, self-control, empathy and relationship skills (social competence). A little more about each of the components. Self-consciousness - is, simply put, an understanding of who I am and what I want in each moment. In fact, self-awareness is one of the most difficult tasks that you can never decide to live your whole life. The catch is that in the process of education and integration into society people "nahvatyvaet" a huge number of ideas and attitudes that are by no means consistent with his personality. Initially, the parents, then teachers, bosses, all sorts of friends, and you never know who else, quietly give us their own beliefs about life and our personality. I do not deny that their advice, recommendations, fears and anxieties, there is a lot of really useful, some material fact of life. The question is otherwise fit this all to you. Or you need to urgently conduct an audit? The fact that the need to live and act in accordance with the canons of strangers strongly "eats" personal capacity. After all, people like to constantly be in conflict with itself. It remains only to understand where he is, and where the foreign setting? Aggravation of the confrontation between the individual human consciousness and alien introduction (psychologists call them thought-viruses, you see, quite a precise definition) is characterized, above all, reduced energy potential. Already manifestations may be very different.