The first and most important recommendation ...

The technique, which is based on the principle of simultaneous work of a psychologist and a massage therapist, offered the doctor of psychological sciences, professor V. Goryanin. This psihomassazh, which combines two active forms of work with the emotions. Firstly, the advice of a psychologist: he examines the patient's life situation, emotional relationship, allowing insight into the problem and solve it. Secondly, an experienced therapist, who led the psychologist takes the muscle clamps and blocks. There are other techniques that allow you to treat the disease by working with unexpressed emotion. As a precaution we offer some ways to the "removal" of such states. The first and most important recommendation - time to express their emotions, and any. And so you do not lose self-esteem that you are not mistaken for ill-mannered, conflicted man learn how to express their emotions. Of course, if the offense kopilas years, the expression of emotion without preparation can be like a tsunami that sweeps away everything in its path, and can lead to a final rupture of relations. Express emotions is safe for yourself and others a variety of ways, most importantly, on time, not leading to "boil". For example, by chance, unintentionally, offended you, colleague. Not taite this insult to myself and not worry about it for weeks, thinking about how to respond to it. The best way in this situation - be honest to admit that his words have touched you that you are irritated that were unable to "correct" answer that you are in pain and uncomfortable. Then look at the situation from the outside: does this person mean to offend you or put it simply failed, or perhaps just slipped as he himself accumulated problems, which he could not solve, and you accidentally "caught his arm." If it's just a mistake, and the person who offended you, in fact, had nothing against you, then he should say so: "I feel hurt and uncomfortable to hear it" or "I feel" hurt ". If a person offends you, and deliberately rude, then consider whether it is worth to him at all to keep in touch. But if you hesitate to fight back, remember what the consequences are fraught with the accumulated negative emotions. Perhaps for the first time in life you should show the power of your vocal cords. And then the soul forgive this man. Perhaps he, too, can not adequately show their emotions. A few tips: · not keep a heavy baggage of harmful insults, anger, guilt and fear, in time to leave this ugly "sack over his shoulders, and empty the more likely release him - that you could easily help an experienced psychologist · time to express their emotions , preferably immediately, so as not to come that you hurt and suffer, and your "abuser" has long forgotten it and wondering what happens to you; · farewell - sincerely and forever, we should not manipulate the offense: You get used to it, and reasons for dissatisfaction only add · forgive yourself - for bad behavior, for that you have an opinion (many under various "plausible" excuses hide the fear to express and defend their point of view) for the fact that with someone quarrel, after a quarrel - often only one way to find out the relationship, for the fact that you are not as successful as you'd like, etc.; · try to express their emotions without hurting the other person, this is easily achieved if you learn and get used to saying no blaming the other, but actually pronounce and show their emotions and feelings.

And the death of the children say

INTRODUCTION Have you ever like to talk with children about death? For most people this is a very difficult task.