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Give your child the opportunity to find their own ways to express their concerns. Wrath of the death of a loved one also causes a feeling of anger in children and adults. We feel the anger from the fact that the deceased have caused us so much pain, sorrow, or leave us alone. We feel anger at the doctors and nurses who did not save him whom we loved and we feel anger at themselves, they were not able to prevent death. Children are more likely to express their anger openly, especially when they lose someone, on whose love and care they depended. Pretty hard to see the anger directed at the deceased, and especially when it is expressed in the fact that we can accept as a manifestation of self-interest. But the anger - is part of grief, and we should help children by taking all their feelings, and do not scold them if they express anger or fear. Children need to be told that they would be taken care of. Regression in children may occur earlier forms of behavior. For example, they may begin thumb sucking, bedwetting or spelled out during the day. Take it as a signal that children need support at this time and remember that, as a rule, this regression is temporary. Depression and behavioral problems of some children wrapped their anger inward, and there is depression, withdrawal or symptoms of physical illness. If this behavior persists for several months, you may need specialist help. After the death of a child is particularly tragic death of a child, and it can create extreme difficulties for the family. As parents, we must share our grief with our surviving children to give them the opportunity to share their grief with us. But we should try not to burden them with their unrealistic expectations and concerns. Dangerous, for example, the tendency to idealize the deceased. We must take care not to compare the living child with the deceased, as it can cause feelings of inferiority and an increase in feelings of guilt for the other children. MSovershenno naturally cope with their grief, drawing our attention to the living. It is therefore understandable that the loss of a child can lead to anxiety about the welfare of our other children. Nevertheless, we must resist any tendency to over custody and attempts to suppress the children grow up to be independent. We must encourage them in that they did not try to replace a lost child, not identified with it. Every child should feel its own uniqueness. Useful, for example, give children images of the deceased. Drawing helps children remember the good about a dead man. Attend a children dying? Many terminally ill patients are in hospitals. Now the rules are changing in the clinics. The hospital staff is beginning to recognize the value of visits to severely ill children. Whether or not the child to visit a dying man, in each case depends on the child, parents and the situation. If the child is old enough to understand what is happening, you can allow him to visit someone who played an important role in the life of the child, provided that both the child and the dying, they want to.