We know that emotional overdependence ...

These women - the biggest mystery and the greatest pain therapists. There just does not come up with terms to describe this state: and "love sickness", and "emotional overdependence" and "overvalued fixation" and "compulsive craving, etc., etc. It is known that 23% of residents of large cities of our country in general never married. Studies show that 23% of these about half (11%) five or six of his best years had a heavy dependence on men, which had once been in love relationships, and then relations have been reduced to a minimum (and sometimes less than the minimum) and fixing all the stronger. Years to about 30, otmuchivshis, they come from this relationship (or rather, creep!), But the opportunity to create a family for thirty years of an unmarried woman from Moscow is only 7% (!), So that its season they missed. A few years looks pretty innocent "love addiction 'cross out all the chances quite a decent young woman to start a family. Such conditions put before experts two difficult questions. First: what is the reason that makes perfectly sensible, often uncommon woman unhappy, destroying lives and are involved in loneliness? And second, even more complicated: how to help "the victim of romantic folly, as to tear her from the person to whom it is not necessary, how to make it open for a new attachment, new feelings, the main thing - to create a family? None of neurotic disorder does not generate as much controversy, debate, academic discourse, as a love relationship. The first question, despite numerous studies of an army of experts around the world, despite the countless articles and books, we do not really know today. "It explains: Psychotherapy - a young science, it just turned a hundred years, and the case it is with complex mechanisms, the crown of creation - the human psyche, in comparison with which the spacecraft - a children's toy. We know that emotional overdependence occurs when a completely ordinary man coincides with the ideal partner in the unconscious part of psyche. And to this coincidence happened to several conditions and circumstances. First, the unconscious, the ideal image should be well-defined, clear and powerful energy that can be translated into a real man. For most women, masculine ideal rather nekonkreten - and thank God! Secondly, it is necessary that in the few days or weeks, when such fixation takes place, the woman was going through some kind of special status - the thirst of love, a strong need for a vibrant feel. This need is enhanced in times of stress, some vital challenges. Very often it is not even recognized, but from the depths of the mind controls our actions. Met in this period, a woman's life a man unconscious congruent image that is suitable for him (sometimes superficially) as a key to the lock - and lock clicks, often for many years.