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A man soon after the divorce, gave up a close relationship with the youngest employee, to their mutual satisfaction. Fear of being left impotent, fear of sexual intercourse, as well as the fear of women in general had disappeared without a trace. So if you have any problems that you are too tough, do not hesitate to go with them to a specialist. In any case, feel free to be themselves. No need to compare ourselves with Arnold Schwarzenegger or Bill Gates, and you, yourself, and the surrounding should appreciate you for all the good qualities that you have - and they certainly have. When you get rid of their fears and complexes, you will realize that this is the case - besides, self-confident person is much easier to consider them. If you have a lot of neurotic traits, you are plagued by anxiety and fear, most likely without a therapist you can not do (not just a psychologist, not a neurologist, namely the therapist). It is a psychotherapist with a medical background will help you get rid of marked neurotic phenomena. If your psychological problems have not reached that level, then contact the counselors or specialist psychological trainings. Solve many of their problems, you can, after working with a specialist one on one, but from some psychological difficulties preventing live you'll never get rid out of work in the group - for example, from the fear of the opposite sex. One may investigate the cause of such fear can be endlessly analyze its relationship with the domineering mother in early childhood, one can imagine being told that you no they are not afraid - but with no real communication with the opposite sex, even with the same notorious as and you yourself, with these fears you not manage, otherwise at the most crucial moment of fear came up with a new force that will lead to frustration. At the same time from some of the unpleasant effects can be eliminated with the help of independent work on themselves. Some Psychotechnical techniques presented in the book "earned a fortune - it concerns the foundations of autogenic training, psycho-physical exercises, role-playing games. Also recently got a lot of literature, which provides a variety of techniques of self-control and optimize their behavior. Do not think that is enough to visit the one and only training, to read one single book, work out alone any week - and immediately everything changed. It does not happen. The fact that accumulated over a lifetime, can not be corrected immediately. His favorite expression of Western psychotherapists about it - to move toward this goal in small steps, "step by step". Only a prolonged and constant work to give a fruit. And do not despair. I myself sometimes wonder what kind of results achieved my patients, if they urged their studies with due persistence and did not lose his presence of mind at the first failure.