But since the family had two small ...

When the first step is made, we must venture to the second - to recognize that these problems, fears and inner conflicts have to do something - and this not my uncle, but only you yourself. No one will solve your problems for you, except yourself. It is useless to look for the culprit in causing your fears and doubts - no matter who they blame, is an important fact of their existence - but just as useless to look for those people who are a wonderful way relieve you of them. Nobody does not help you except yourself. No doctor, no psychologist, no priest and expert on human relations can not help you if you yourself do not help, as there is no magic pill that will be removed once all of your complexes and anxiety. Just as you should not expect miraculous hypnosis - this is not the case. Specialist, who have prior knowledge and techniques you can really help only when you are ready to act and to actively get out of their systems. It is clear that much easier to get into his shell and sit there and fence ourselves off from the outside world, to exist in the realm of his dreams and illusions. The man could well live without women - and why they are needed, they are nothing but trouble? (Female version: "All men - bastards without them better"). But that is defective life. But just want to change something in your life - a little. We must act. First you need to decide for yourself, whether you cope with your problems yourself or you should seek the services of specialists. Sometimes a conversation with an experienced psychologist can help clarify the issue. Often, people attending a consultation with one question, as it turns out that torments him is quite different, but the true cause of his anxiety is hidden deep in the recesses of the subconscious. Here is an example. Male 35 years comes to the doctor complaining of impotence. He can not satisfy his wife, he recently began to be afraid of sexual intercourse, and how he never seems he can no longer be a real man. The wife argues that he is completely impotent - that it says, and sexologist. What it turns out, really? My husband is all right, he has a strong sexual constitution, but his ability and opportunity - within limits. Just family relationships broken, and his wife no longer makes him special sexual feelings - but he's away this conceals the fact as the fact that he likes one of his young employee, to which he is afraid to come because of the ostensible powerlessness. His wife, too, had long since lost interest in her husband, she has a lover, and, moreover, very clever, with whom she gets a real pleasure, and her husband is annoyed at all - and in sex too. But since the family had two small children, the couple hid even from themselves, how far gone the family disharmony. So the problem is that the patient was not in the reduction of potency, and the crisis of family relations. Realizing their problems, the couple made for themselves the conclusions and diverged.