Of course, temper, but children sometimes ...

And on my word about what I just said (just lift the eyes, please) - waved his hand and said, vigorously rubanuv hand: "If a man loves a woman he can love and her children." He then frankly told me that he is deeply mistaken. His new wife was very sweet and kind woman, her whole soul was trying to understand and accept his sons, who often came to their house. And she almost succeeded. But her children (a son and daughter) were not taken them. Although it seems that he tried to take them. Year and a half lasted this civil family - just enough to make him understand that her children - will never become his children. And it is rarely a man can understand it immediately. Most sincerely believe that this barrier is overcome. Suffer again, children ... Their souls are not yet hardened, and they somehow just able to grow a soul to a man who was close with his mom (at least, with the pope) and with all my heart take a strong liking to this man, this man. And to this he is not ready, in fact it even scares such affection. And children are very thin felt, but can not understand. They are once again experiencing great pain, they can not understand why this is happening - they love and they are not ... and it breaks down and destroys their psyche, creating all sorts of neuroses, phobias, ot which subsequently is very rarely possible to get rid of fully. Such disposal requires large material investments. And where they can take the majority of our countrymen with you - these large material investments Many believe that these life lessons harden all the participants of the marriage of the experiment. Y-yes ... yes ... all is not all. Of course, temper, but children sometimes tempered so that their souls are covered by scab, through which has not pushed his way in the future anyone Antoine de Saint-Exupery expressed (or rather wrote), a brilliant philosophical thought, "We are responsible for those, who tamed!". But, my dear, put his hands on heart, say to themselves at the seemingly simple question: how many of the men realize this and whether there is a responsibility of those who enter into civil illegal ties (besshtampovogo, as one friend of mine) of marriage? You will say it all depends on specific people. And you will be absolutely right. But there are now certain people, who adheres to the spirit nesvoim children who are ready to assume responsibility for those who tamed - very, very small. For some (say, more softly) the civil marriage is precisely the way that responsibility to bring to an end. Simply, many even imagine this is not immediately recognized. If it does not have their children - all can be long and beautiful continue. What if ... What if there are children, it is great chance to hear: "Sorry, but this was beyond my strength. I so can not. " These words are much more pronounced in these situations, men rather than women. Someone who heard these words, ugryumeet person, someone cries, someone starts to transfer some power and funds invested by him in this marriage, and that it is their co-residence was part of a common life, which you gave part of the soul, emotions, health , material resources, and now you have the right to require at least some consolation.