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More than half experienced major depression requiring treatment. In the first year after leaving the women are half of all sold in the civilized countries of antidepressants. But the men break a long emotional attachment experience much easier. After all, they have a positive experience of the gap. We have in mind the separation from the mother and the transition to the so-called "masculine subculture", which takes place between 5 th and 7 th years of a child's life. Indeed, immediately after the divorce, we do not see them either major depression or intrusive memories of past family life, no guilt, no fear of the future. "Ease" the transition from the marital bond to a completely different way of life always amazed and even shocked by ex-wives. How is the fate of divorced men "eyes" of psychological statistics? 65% of them re-marry within the next five years, with the vast majority of divorce do not regret, but are convinced that the first wife was better. Another 15% are married in the period from 5 to 10 years after the divorce. Greatest interest to psychotherapists are those remaining 20%, which creates a new family or a fixed pair of only twenty years or more and thus spend without permanent attachment best 20 years of his life - from about 27 to 47 years. This group of men - along with those who did not initially raise a family, - doomed to loneliness 30% is quite worthy of the fair sex. In the past ten years, divorced men are more likely to seek the help of psychologists and psychotherapists. Today they make up 30% of clients practitioner, and in half the cases they lead to welcome ex-wife. The most frequent problems: depression, loneliness, confusion, overeating, alcohol abuse, reduction of interest in professional and private life. These symptoms reach their maximum development, usually in the middle of the second year after divorce and have been called the "syndrome of seventeen months." What are its causes? Foremost among them is disappointing. One of the major motives of parting with his wife is the idea that, being "at large", a man will meet some extraordinary woman, beautiful, kind, caring and, of course, younger. He dreamed some brilliant feeling, different from ordinary intercourse with his wife. Dreams are realized only in part, a closer acquaintance with the new women bring not only joy, but often frustration, even resentment. Girlfriends come and not caring, and criticized, and criticized, and sometimes turn out to be incorrect. In addition, an impulsive, short-term relationship with the "incoming" partner - not what marriage is. With his wife holds the so-called "tuning" - the psychological and biological. Intimate life with new and sometimes unfamiliar female partners requires a much higher energy costs. The new proximity initially delivers a lot of joy, but also takes away a lot of strength, reduces the efficiency of a team.